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11 year old has Facebook account set up by her dad

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Hyland · 29/07/2013 12:16

Can I get this deleted ... Even though her dad set it up, probably so he can keep tabs on my family as we're not together.

My daughter is going I high school in September and if I'm worried about friends looking her up on Facebook. It doesn't set the right image with a scruffy picture on the front screen of when she was 6 or 7.

I also can't keep tabs on it

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LittleBearPad · 29/07/2013 13:29

Ok so she hasn't accessed it in a year and can't access it - ie doesn't know passwords etc. Then report that a grown man is impersonating a young girl to Facebook. They will delete it.

This should help
m.facebook.com/help/263149623790594

lljkk · 29/07/2013 13:32

um, is impersonating a child the sort of thing that gets reported to CEOP?

courgetteDOTcom · 29/07/2013 13:42

Report it as someone impersonating you and just add a note that it is your daughter's name/ picture, not her account and she is under age.

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Hyland · 29/07/2013 14:04

Her hair tied up yes that's what I meant oops!
Her clothes look trampish or what can only be described as stuff not good enough for even a carboot. A friend of the family visiting was shocked when she saw how dishevelled she looks. You would think she has gone camping without showers/ brush and normal looking clothes !

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Hyland · 29/07/2013 14:10

Thank you I will try and get this deleted but I will add that at the moment her friends have only been family links as such so not sure i can claim her dad is impersonating her but I will attempt to get it removed.

I also believe they he hasn't told her the password for seeing that she would give it to me when I asked.

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Hyland · 29/07/2013 14:28

To report a fake account, you'll need to log in from a computer. Is what the site sez so I'll try later this evening after work.

I'm not going to lie, I will admit its her dad but she doesn't know the password etc and of course under age!

On a separate note when I made a fuss about it over a year ago .... Everyone I spoke about said it was fine for her to have an account but it was me that care what every one else does with their child and told her she isn't go on it.

Many said I was being over sensitive about it ... I would be interested to know how many people actually stick to the 13 age rule. You would think Facebook would just disable any account showing as a person below the age.

I thought perhaps I was being to protective not allowing her to have what everyone else seems to have ( especially on high school)

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courgetteDOTcom · 29/07/2013 14:29

Don't tell them it's her dad. If they come back with that then tell them she lives with you and neither of you know of the account.

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Hyland · 29/07/2013 14:33

I think they will work out that he's the dad... Same surname and I imagine his e-mail account

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Hyland · 29/07/2013 14:34

I'm back to my maiden name now so if anything I'll probably have to prove I am who I say I am, like at the airport lol

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PostBellumBugsy · 29/07/2013 14:39

OP, with regard to your last question, this is my view.

My DCs had FB accounts below the age of 13, but only because I set them up with them. I knew that lots of their friends had them & I wanted to get in there with my DCs before they were influenced by their friends and possibly even tried to set one up secretly (as so many of their friends do). I explained to them that there was a data protection legal reason why they shouldn't sign on under the age of 13, so technically their FB pages would belong to me.

It has worked really well over the last 3 years. I have access to their FB pages, as I have their log in details and touch wood nothing has gone wrong so far. We talk about the really, really stupid stuff that some of their friends post or the inappropriate photos their friends post of themselves too.

I hope I have enabled my DCs not to make some of the very silly mistakes that so many young people do on FB & that I've also showed them that they can be open with me about it.

titchy · 29/07/2013 14:40

Except she doesn't have an account does she? Having an account means logging into it, liking what your friends have done, adding stuff to your wall updating your status etc etc. She can't actually do any of that stuff can she

How exactly does her father think it'll work when she's at secondary, with loads of new friend requests, which he will accept on her behalf. Will he also be posting 'likes' and commenting on things her secondary school friends have posted?

If you get nowhere I'd alert her new school tbh. I'm pretty sure any parents of year 7 kids is not going to be too pleased with a middle aged man friending their kids whilst pretending to be a child. Can you get a friendly PCSO, or teacher, to tell him that the word for what he is doing is grooming....

courgetteDOTcom · 29/07/2013 14:58

It might come back that it's the dad but you don't know anything of the account other than it exists. You might have to prove to them you are the RP, but that's not going to be too hard. You could make out that you don't know who he is, just someone with the same surname...

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie · 29/07/2013 15:05

Derfinitely report it to FB they will remove it as it is your child and she's underage.

Immeditely set up a new one...keep it blank and keep the password to yourself. Don't add to it in any way shape or form though in case he reports it.

I don't think it's odd for the OP not to want her 11 year old to appear in her FB as a scruffy 6 year old! Rightly or wrongly, her child's online presence is a concern and she is correct to watch how she appears.

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie · 29/07/2013 15:06

Don't they all use Twitter now anyway? Set her up one of those.

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Hyland · 29/07/2013 15:15

Ha ha as serious a subject as it is ( he isn't grooming anyone) as far as I know but I do see your point how it could get out of control with accepting friend requests and then suddenly that escalates to liking posts on her behalf etc.

Which is why I want it gone

I also wouldn't want to start alerting the school or parents at this stage as that also could escalate and my daughter would then be left with the whispers.

I will report to Facebook on the basis that its a fake account and also via the other route of her being under 13.

I will then threaten him with the CEOP and hopefully all these combined will work before the new term in September.

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MNHarpy · 29/07/2013 20:42

Please don't five an 11 year old a twitter account either. Jesus.

I kind of give up on this thread. Everyone is mad.

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