co sleeping

[cunners1982]

I have a nearly 4 week old baby who hates to be put down overnight in his pram. I have occasinally been letting him co sleep in my bed for my pure sansity so i can get some sleep and he sleeps fine. he doesnt need to be touching me but sleeps happily awake. I am worried that Im going to make things harder when Hes older if i let him sleep with me. How long would people recommend to let a newborn sleep with you until it Will start to become an issue later on?

My LO is 8wks and was the same, still likes to sleep on me during the day. For night time I just tried him in his moses basket every so often and he now happily sleeps in it every night. I'm no expert but it feels to me like mine is gradually growing in confidence eg is getting happier to sit in his bouncer for a bit rather than being on me all day. I think it's just a matter of keep trying while they get used to the world (google the 4th trimester - makes a lot of sense to me!)

We still co sleep at 14 months. Do what gives you as much sleep as possible

I was dead against the idea of co sleeping when pregnant. DD wouldn't sleep and we ended up co sleeping because it was the only way to get her to sleep and as a result we could sleep. It changed our lives completely and we could then function during the day. It then felt natural I loved it. At about 5 months she started sleeping in her cot sometimes and we can get her there most of the times. So it was only a short term solution.

Do what's best for you. The horror stories about parents rolling over and squashing babies were normally due to drunks doing so. As long as you don't smoke, drink or take drug (some presciption drugs make you drowsy, check the labels) it's fine

Thanks. its just all the horror stories you hear but at the minute it is the best way we can all get some sleep. the constant fight to get him into his Moses basket overnight is a killer when your already knacked

It's the most natural place for any baby to sleep so don't let it worry you, as said above drink/drugs/smoking aren't advisable. I co slept until about 11 months and touch wood since then my now 2 year old has progressed brilliantly from cot to his bed in the last few weeks. Against all the wise words we were creating a rod for our own backs is crazy it worked well for us!

I wish we could co sleep ! I have a real fear about it, it freaks me out, I am so scared baby will fall out / get squished. The few times we've done it baby and I have slept like the dead.

Any tips on getting over "the fear"

I was frightened. But then a breast feeding counselor said to me that it is the most natural way to sleep with a baby, because in the old day if you leave your baby alone it could be eaten by wolves because you are not protecting it (real old days). And in most parts of the world that is how they sleep with their baby and it is seen as completely normal.

I kept thinking I'm protecting my DD from wolves. Hope that helps

or you can think tigers if you prefer

If i do co sleep with my baby whats the best way to re introduce the moses basket to sleep in?

We co slept till v recently. DD's nearly 3 years old. We've started to move her when she's really asleep and she
Mostly stays in her bed. When she does get out she comes into our bed and climbs in. No problem. We both work ft and there's an older DS. I need sanity.

We co-slept from about 2 weeks until about 2 and a half months.
DS was feeding all the time and hated his basket so it made sense. People warned me that we'd never get him out of our bed but we had no problem. We moved him into a cot next to our bed and he was fine.

Relax 12 yr old co sleepers are VERY rare

My little sausage is 11months and fast asleep next to me now, we took the side off his cot and attached it to are bed. Before we did this he never slept for more than 45mins at a time! I was getting to the point were I would of accidentally hurt one of us because I was so sleep deprived.
Maybe a co sleeping cot would make you worry less about rolling on lo.

Another vote for co sleeping. Feels totally natural and nobody in the house gets disturbed at night, win win.

You asked about reintroduction of the moses basket? Try using it for naps during the day time to start with.

Co slept with DS1 until 12mo. Co sleeping with DS2 at the moment (he's 8 weeks). Personally I think it's helpful to do what works for you, and tackle any 'problem' when it needs tackling. Habits can be broken.

We transitioned DS1 to a cot when he was 12mo and although it took a little while (probably 1 week of lots of night wakings/re-settling, and then gradually less) I much prefer that than trying to get a newborn to sleep on their own when they're simply not biologically programmed to want to do so. You save yourself a lot of frustration by being baby-led at this stage!

It depends so much on the baby, really.

The first 3 months DD slept in prammy thing/cot and although she slept OKish she never really settled properly and then one night she felt a little ill so I took her in with me and she slept like a log. It made it so much easier for me to breastfeed her and we both enjoyed it.

So now at 16 weeks she starts off in the cot for the first part of the night and then at around 3 or 4 o'clock comes in with us. It works for us and she loves it, so we all win.

From 7 weeks i started putting DS is his cot and then bringing him with us arond 3 which was usually his second or third tme awake, at 12 mo when he started sleeping better he stopped coming in he's 18mo now and going through separation anxiety so i have been getting into bed with him sometimes if he wakes during the night i'm confident he will grow out of it like he did coming int our bed.

I was going to raise DD 70's style, with plenty if benign neglect and sleep training from 6 months onwards.

Then she was born and cosleeping just felt like the only safe thing to do. We had a beside cot but she mostly slept with us until very recently. She just moved into her nursery and adjusted wonderfully. She's 16 months.

I recently decided that enough was enough and that my 7 mo would be going into her cot much more and in my bed much less... So she's teething and all the good intentions have fled! Do whatever gets everyone the most sleep .