small child climbed out window. . feeling like a bad mum

[mummykayxx]

hello we live on a ground floor flat and my partner was home from work yesterday and was in the bedroom so I opened the big window for him and made a mental note to remember it was open, and took my son with me. Anyway so LB went to find my partner but he was in the spare bedroom. I thought he was with him and he thought he was with me, but to my horror he had climbed out of the window. under the window are thorns and brambles, so he went straight into them ): he is scratched but hes ok. I feel so bad! everything bad anyone has ever said about me just came flooding back and I feel like such a rubbish mum for not realising (was destracted with course work) feeling pretty rubbish ):

we live in a basement and one time my little man crawled out the front door and up the steps. we found him when he was about to go onto the pavement (which is next to the road).

I think it takes a scare like this to up your game. you can not assume your partner is looking after him unless you 'hand over'. Put some actions in place to stop anything happeneing again.

that said. EVERY parent has a story like this. Infact I'm suprised it's been 2 hours and no one has responded with theirs. try not to feel too bad (I have also been assured this won't be the only time we feel like bad mothers)!!

kxxxx

It happens to all of us at some time. We had a full scale search for DS1 when he was about 18m, I thought he was with DM, DM thought he was with DF and DH thought he was with me! cue us running like mad people down to the stream at the bottom of the garden, down the drive, we searched everywhere - finally found him sat under a hedge eating blackberries!

the result is now I am (and i'm sure you will be now) very conscious of actually saying 'DS is with you now' when he wanders to where another adult is.

The important thing is no real harm came to your DS and you'll be more vigilant from now on. Give yourself a break.

Don't feel too bad. My DD was half way out a 1st floor window onto a sloping roof when my neighbour spotted her and shouted at her to get back in.

I felt dreadful but it made me much more vigilant in future.