Am I being PFB...PIL want to see dd but both had v&d 48 hrs ago

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My PIL have been abroad for the last 2 months and were back last weekend. We had arranged to meet them this weekend but on the phone to my DH this evening they mentioned that they had both had v&d, but have been ok for the last 48hrs. They had caught it off my SIL family who had been to visit us last weekend, and just mentioned it in passing in a 'aren't we lucky not to have been ill' kind of way. It turns out that not only they and SIL family have been poorly, but also most of nephews nursery class as well.

My husband didn't think about it more until he mentioned it to me tonight. I'm not keen on them seeing us tomorrow, dd is 5mo and I rather not give her a V&D bug just so the IL's can see her. My DH was a bit worried they'd be upset that they couldn't see her and I know they'll think it's come from me being awkward but tbh it's not my fault they've been away for 2months. I'm a bit annoyed that they didn't check that it was ok either!

I know it's not AIBU but am I?!

I don't know how long these bugs are usually infectious for, but I don't think I'd let anyone see my DD who'd had that recently.

Depends on the bug, but if they have been completely clear of any D or V for the past 48 hours then it should be ok.

I'm with you I'd rather not take the chance; tbh life is crap when your dc aren't well I've been awake at three in the morning with poo on my feet, sick in my hair and desperately hoping the baby will go back to sleep. I am not thinking "well I'm glad they came over and that really DC could of picked it up anywhere"or whatever nonsense people spout. If you're the one who has to deal with the possible fall out then I think the call is yours.

I think you are being too precious if they've been ok for 48 hours and they are coming to you. Tummy bugs are passed via toilets after that time so if you are worried give it a good bleach and wash your hnds carefully. I would be more worried going to their house tbh.....

YANBU at all.

If they'd both had it and your SIL it is obviously very/easily passed on. I would definitely err on the side of caution with a baby.

I am a real stickler for not exposing little babies (definitely those under 6 months) to illness if I can help it. Plenty of people are offended by this and it seems to be motivated by either selfishness or ignorance. I'd recommend no contact between ill person and baby for 48 hours after symptoms disappear.

If you can cope with being even more unpopular, you might also bear in mind that incubation periods can be up to 72 hours and someone who has been in contact with the ill person could be brewing the sickness before they have even developed symptoms.

Thanks all, decided not to risk it In the end, will see them next weekend instead...think I'm the bad guy now though!!

48 hours is fine - that is the guidance of the world health organisation for children attending nursery and schools.