Play date from hell; dd was mean to friend.

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DD (50 so wanted her friend to come over for tea. Said friend came over and wanted to paint. DD refused to play with her and just wanted to watch tv. She got very jealous and territorial over her stuff and I got very upset and angry with her after trying to reason with her etc.
Both of them were very uppset and I ended up taking friend home early as the atmosphere was so bad.
I tried to get them both to join in games, water the garden together etc but no.
The little friend has said that she dodn't want to come to play gain and I don't blame her.
DD has gone to bed early as 'punishment' but tbh I think she needed to as was tired and went without a fuss.
How could I/should I have handled this? How can I broach the minefield of girl friendships when I am so bad at them myself?

I have tried to tell them both that you can still be friends with someone even if they want to do different things but I sensed a bit of a power trip on dds part. She is quite territorial.

Is she 5? Perhaps she's not ready yet on a social development front to have friends round in her space?

I've had this in the past, I waited a while before agreeing to another playdate and made her promise she would be kind and play with friend before agreeing to it.
She's been good as gold since.

5 , yes; not 50! She's an only so struggles with sharing.

She's had friends round before though and been happy but this girl and her seem to have issues even though thye can play really nicely too. I think they both want to best friends with another little girl. (yawn!)

I don't have any siblings. I remember really looking forward to having friends over to play as a child but what I really wanted to do was play together - dolls, pretend type stuff, games that I was not able to play on my own. I was not very happy if said friends just wanted to play something solitary as it was the company I was looking forward to. I even remember fibbing and telling some friends that some solitary type games were broken .

Anyway, at 5 they often take a while to warm up and sometimes only start playing 'nicely' just before it's time to go home. To be honest if your DD wants to watch TV and friend wants to paint I think I would just let them get on with it individually for a while. No point trying to force it.