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Help am I doing it right?

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MillyStar · 11/07/2013 19:31

Dd is 14 months and has fallen asleep on my lap all of her life then put in her cot

Last night I put her down awake and lay on the floor next to her and she screamed for an hour then fell asleep and I snuck off! She's currently in the cot screaming again and I'm on the floor, I still talk to her and ask her where her teddy is and stuff so she can cuddle him

Does this sound right to you? Am I ok in talking to her a little bit?

I didn't think she would scream when I'm right next to her it's so hard

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Believeitornot · 11/07/2013 20:08

That's quite a change! I used to do it gradually with mine - so put them down half asleep and try and settle that way, then over a few weeks would work on putting them down more awake and try leaving the room (sitting next to them would upset them). However there are phases when dd needs more cuddles (my youngest at 19 months) and other times she's happy to go down awake. I've got a three year old so know it won't be that way forever.

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MillyStar · 11/07/2013 20:23

She stopped crying and went to sleep 40 mins earlier tonight! I thought we were making progress but do you think I'm being too harsh?

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Believeitornot · 11/07/2013 20:28

Give it three nights - if she gets better then I'd stick with it. If not then try a different approach?

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MillyStar · 11/07/2013 20:31

Well last night it took till 8.30 for her to fall asleep and tonight it was 7.50pm!

A few people have told me just to leave the room and not go back in but I really can't do that! I've lay and pretended to go to sleep and just given her dummy back if she's thrown it out of the cot

If I try to comfort her by rubbing her tummy or lie her down she seems to scream more!

It's so hard :(

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Believeitornot · 11/07/2013 20:41

Yes I left the room with dd because me bein there upset her more. I basically said goodnight then left. If her crying calmed down after a few mins she's going to fall asleep. If on the other hand it doesn't then she needs a cuddle so I'd give her one until she drifted off.

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MillyStar · 11/07/2013 20:43

Oh I really don't know what to do!

I know if I do that she will scream and I will end up cuddling her to sleep again every night

Do they seem to grow out of wanting the cuddles as they get older?

I'm so torn! I'd love to be able to put her down awake and say good night but I hate seeing her upset

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Believeitornot · 11/07/2013 21:28

Yes - I found that they would take a long time to settle if I cuddled so I'd leave. That would be hard but I'd time it and they cry for a few mins then settle. Listen to her cries and see if she's getting more upset it less. Although bear in mind that will be harder if quite hot!

fionabeeb · 11/07/2013 22:05

I stroked DS's face but didn't talk. After night three he turned around as I went to stroke his face and just went straight to sleep so from then on I left the room.

HenriettaPye · 11/07/2013 22:09

DS fell asleep on our knee until he was 2. Once he was in a big bed we went up and lay beside him and read him a story then waited with him til he fell asleep. Still do this now, he's 3. Tbh I don't mind doing it, it takes 15-20 mins and its nice to feel needed! I know he won't want it forever!

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