moving .. opinions please

[mummykayxx]

my partner grew up in torquay (2 hours away from where we live now) and we visited the other month. I fell in love with the place! my son's dad lives round where we are now. he has my son one night a week. We really want to move down there. is it unfair on my son? I Would meet his dad half way when he had my son. anyone else in the same situation? I just don't want to stop living my life and not do something just because my ex (bubbas dad) wouldn't like it :/ opinions please! xx

How far away is it? 2 hours in good traffic?
Is DSs Dad a committed and active part of DSs life?
I'd be really hesitant about creating such a distance between them if he is involved with DS...these relationships turn sour very quickly and the children suffer greatly when they do IME.
That said, your life can't revolve around your ex's location. Is it possible to sit down and talk to him about it, logistics e.t.c.? Maybe an extended less frequent contact arrangement is the answer?

2 hours in normal traffic. he doesn't bother with little one. he has him one night a week but can't wait to give him back. lets him down quite a lot to go out drinking... :/ x

Hmmm, still once a week is a pretty firm commitment. Can you talk to him first? If it will cause problems then I'm afraid I think it is unfair on DS. That sucks for you I know, but an involved loving dad is an absolute asset.

I mentioned it and he threatened me with court because he thinks he can stop us. we aren't planning on it yet, maybe a year or so but hoping he will calm down and be able to discuss it. We are a half an hour drive from him at the moment x

If you want to move, don't let your ex stop you. Your child can still have a great relationship with his son over a distance. As you say, it just needs a little more planning.
As for court, he can't stop you moving your son within this country. He might be allowed longer with your son more infrequently though. The whole weekend every other weekend for example.

What else is keeping you where you are? Work? DS's school? Family (including ex-in-laws who are part of DS's family)?

What else does Torquay have to offer? Besides the seaside and a nice holiday of course...

nothing is keeping me where I am tbh. Little one not at school yet, live in a small town and been looking for work for a year. just fell in love with the area really (: always wanted to live by the beach and other half wants to go back there and I love it and really want to!