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5yo girl friendships

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gintastic · 02/07/2013 15:58

I'm hoping for some advice on my DD's friendships. She's very outgoing and popular at school (so I'm told by the teacher) but is slowly becoming manipulative and possessive about her friends. For example, throwing a strop to get her own way - and then having a little sly smile on her face afterwards, she knew that crying would get the others to do what she wanted and did it on purpose. And then this afternoon, we have one of her friends for tea. My DS(age 3) knows this girl well as well, and wanted to play with them. Well DD was having none of this, to the extent that she was actually physically pulling poor friend away from her brother. Shrieking and crying and wailing about "my friend". I tried to get them all to play together but she just shrieked more. I then separated her from friend and DS and tried to explain that if she behaves like this, her friends won't want to play with her anyway. Tried to find out if she does this at school - she can be very stroppy, stamping feet and pouting, flicking her hair and being basically quite nasty when she doesn't get her own way. I will speak to her class teacher tomorrow to see how bad it has got at home, but I was ashamed and embarrassed by her behaviour this afternoon. What else can I do? I was badly bullied at school and remember being on the receiving end of nasty manipulative behaviour like this and it kills me to think that DD might being doing this to others.

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daytoday · 02/07/2013 16:39

Firstly, I think you need to plan an activity with dd for when her younger brother has friend over and start slowly introducing rules about when siblings have play dates. You haven't probably needed to yet and your son has probably only just started having play dates.

Do speak with the teacher and dont worry too much as your daughter is probably just passing through a phase. Her friends will probably ignore her tantrums etc. and your daughter will learn a lot from them.

Start talking about first and second feelings, as in how you feel and he someone else feels.

Don expect change overnight, instead make this a 3 month plan of action. She is very young.

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