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DD1 (4.5 y/o) chews her sleeves ragged

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Tortoiseonthehalfshell · 24/06/2013 13:03

It is driving me utterly, utterly bonkers. If there are any magic tips out there to help her stop, I will prostrate myself before you in gratitude. Alternatively, any coping mechanisms for me would be lovely.

She does it when she's absorbed in something - so, listening to a story or watching TV are major culprits. She does it when she's even mildly anxious - so, as soon as we enter nursery for the day, even though she's happy and settled there, her sleeves come up to her mouth. All of her sleeves are stretched and soaked by the end of the day, and although we can get out the grime with serious soaking and stain removal, they are permanently stretched out and loose around the cuffs. It looks horrible. Today I picked her up and there were actual holes in the cuffs of her shirt.

It's winter here, so keeping her in short sleeves isn't an option. I do try and keep the sleeves rolled up a bit so they're not right there, but she pulls them down again. Or twists up the collar of her top and bites that instead. I have tried reminding her gently over and over. I have tried reasoning with her. I have lost it and hissed viciously while yanking her sleeve down. But it's unconscious, so what can you do?

I even bought her some chewy sensory toys, the sort that are marketed towards kids with autism and other spectrum disorders - but unless she has one in her hand every second, which is impractical, she'll just chew again.

I know it's not deliberate. But it's seriously distressing me, so does anyone have any help?

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2kidsintow · 24/06/2013 20:25

My DD still does this - and she's nearly 9. It's just a habit. I can't imagine why she would like the feel of fabric in her mouth as it goes right through me! Urgh.

So, no help from me sorry. I just nag, nag, nag.

SirChenjin · 24/06/2013 20:30

DS used to do this - every long sleeved top he owned had holes in the arms. I can't give you any advice I'm afraid, other than to remind her every time she's doing it - it's a self-soothing thing, so she'll not even be aware of it, but if you just say "sleeve" loudly or clap every time she's doing it she'll maybe (or maybe not!) at least start to be aware it's happening.

FWIW DS did grow out of it by the time he was about 7 or 8.

shebird · 24/06/2013 20:41

My DD also had this habit and it drove me nuts. I thought at the time it was linked to anxiety as it happened when she started school. I later realised that she was also cutting her back molars which must really hurt as they are the big adult ones. As soon as these were through the chewing stopped.

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Tortoiseonthehalfshell · 25/06/2013 11:59

9! Okay, then I need a way to not care so much. Thanks, all.

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DIYapprentice · 25/06/2013 14:17

I can't give DS2 any of DS1's school jumpers as hand downs because of this... real pain.

I think the solution is to just not spend much money on jumpers/long sleeve t-shirts

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