DD's sport's day has been postponed from when we were on holiday a couple of weeks ago, to tomorrow, due to bad weather.
I have just had spinal surgery, feel really good. I promised her this morning that I would go tomorrow, as she is really nervous, hasn't practised as much as she would have as she was not originally going to be there. She is fretting about it.
She is such a wonderful 6, about to turn 7 year old girl and has been very worried about my surgery, her emotions have been up and down and it's all good as I promised her I would be fine, and I am. It has however been a tough week, emotionally for her, she has been looked after by other people, her routine has been out (that throughs her, she likes things to be 'right'). She is a very sensitive, loving, home and family girl and the thought of no-one being there at sports day fills her and me with dread.
DS also happens to be in it, but he is 3.5 (his pre-school is linked to school) and I don't think he really gets it, although, it IS his first ever ever sports day and so I would love to be there for that too. I feel awful that I will miss his sports day too, but chances are he won't remember it, and he might not even run.
So, I thought, it's only an hour. I can manage that! I might not be able to stay for lunch, but I can certainly cheer her on, and I can grab a chair from staff room to sit on I'm sure!
So, DD told daddy/DH this morning that I was going tomorrow and daddy said 'no mummy can't, she has had surgery poppet she won't be able to do that just yet, it's too soon'. Cue wailing, crying, desperation from her. I thought DH is just being over-cautious 'I'll sort it sweety' I said 'it'll be fine'. I will talk to DH when he gets home from school run shortly.
And, sitting here. I just realised. DH is working tomorrow. He wasn't going to be working, as we didn't know how long I would need more 1:1 care for, so he was not working this week. However, his boss asked him if he could do a couple of shifts due to being understaffed and he said he could do tomorrow day time as kids are in school/nursery. So, that's why I can't do it! I can't even get there, I won't be able to go on my own firstly, and secondly I can't drive.
Fuck. Fuck. Fuck. I am now in tears. I will see if there is anyone who might be able to come and get me, but, most people are working.
I should not have promised her I would be there.
feel like an awful mummy. Not helped by the fact that her best friend can't come to her birthday celebration on monday as she has a hospital appointment, and DD can't go to her best friend's party a few days later as we are not here. These are such big things for such a little girl to deal with all at once.