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Resentful Husband

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alessi10 · 23/06/2013 10:40

Advice needed... having real problems in my marriage. I have a three year old and a 5 mth old. My husband was away with work last week, I worked really hard to keep up with the house and look after the children (the three year old has been particularly tricky with behaviour and sleeping at the moment). Had some lovely calls, texts whilst he has been away and was really looking forward to his return. However, he walks in and immediately picks on a couple of things that haven't been done, says that I smell (I've been cleaning and hadn't expected him back for a few hours!). We go out for dinner with friends that night and when I make jokes he mocks me by fake laughing at the top of his voice. On Saturday he shouts and screams at our three year old for the slightest thing. Ironically there has been a big improvement in 3yo behaviour whilst daddy is away. If I try and talk about the fact that he should choose his battleS with little one instead of always being on at him he says i'm not strict enough. We chatted about it last night but this morning the same again, shouting at him and telling him how naughty he is and how he never listens. Already three year old is starting to act up again. I have tried to talk to him about what the problem is and he makes a joke and doesn't talk and then half an hour later screams and shouts at me about how he gets back and there are things to do around the house (there aren't), he has to read the three year old stories etc etc. Basically he seems to resent being a father and being a husband. I feel so low, he is sapping all my confidence and self esteem. This weekend is typical of a lot of the time. I think about leaving but don't know where i'd go.

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Sioda · 23/06/2013 12:04

You poor thing. He's verbally and emotionally abusive and you know you deserve better. Don't forget that, whatever you decide to do. Has his behaviour gotten worse recently? Does he go away with work frequently? Is it a mixed gender workplace when he goes away? Is he taking more care over his appearance lately? Secretive with his phone/computer? The nice texts while away then criticism on arriving home and chipping away at you is classic guilty behaviour. I'd be suspicious if I were you. Maybe repost in relationships.

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