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ds 2 is 14wks. He's ebf and is also using me as a dummy to get to sleep. its got to the point where he is on, off, on, off as he goes to sleep. in an evening this goes on for about 2hrs. it's making me sore and I can't carry on. he hates a dummy and just gags on it.
do I just let him fight it out and settle himself? id obviously still be cuddling him.
I don't know what else to do.

My first was like this. Then my health visitor swaddled him really tightly and he slept for hours. I still live her for it 30 years later. Mightbe worth a try. Makes them secure. HTH

love her! sorry

If it's hurting you and making you unhappy then let him settle himself as long as your there for him he'll be fine. Have you tried different types of dummy? we only used one kind but other people have suggested it before

we did swaddle but onto bags now. he started fighting the swaddle!

im cuddling him and letting him fight it out. He's tired and keeps turning his head into my chest. I think he might give in soon.....

yes to different dummies too. the latest one being £5.49 for the new Mam one!

Or a nice stretchy sling so he gets his cuddle and you get your hands free!

Yy to stop and try something else if its hurting you and making you unhappy. It will only take a few feeds/sleeps for him to accept the new way! Tbh if he's using you to settle you'd end up taking action sooner or later - just done/doing a bit of sleep training with boob settling 6 month old.

thank you for your responses. I don't want vto replace one crutch with another we are cuddling it out! He isn't too impressed!

We found that if one of us gave her a finger to suck our baby was happy. When she was a few months old she figured out how to get her own fingers in her mouth and has been great ever since, so it didn't feel like giving her a crutch. That said she was already sucking her own fingers whenever she did manage to get them in her mouth which is what gave us the idea.

feed so he's full and cotent then keep cuddling and stroke his forhead downwards so his eyes get heavy?

by 11pm he gave in and slept till 5am then til 8am! he woke yp every time I tried to put him down but by then he was winging but not distressed. I stood at his door but he went off on his own almost straight away.
He's just settled himself for his nap in my arms but no boob required!