....securlurking..your own thread to lurk on!

[beansontoast]

i thought id start a new one...cos im a bit self conscious about that other thread dragging on a bit..iykwim?

i couldnt find your other thread ...im not sure how to search archives and all that...

i know what you mean about people being different in how they cope with stuff...but i tend to thrive on shared experiences...all the while realising that diff people will do diff things in diff circumstances etc...sense??

thanks for you offer to help me should i need it in the future...i dont knwo what help i'll need but im sure this aint over for me yet!...

so ill flag this one up again if thats alright?

you hav helped me soo much already so thats another good thing xx

beanytiger...(im experimenting with new names)

Ahh, thank you, my own home I love it - do you mind if I do something with the curtains though?

I am certain that no-one thinks it is dragging at all (although things do start to go slow loading as I am only on dial up!)

You are more than welcome to flag up if you need me in any way (even if it is just for a tiny thing, I am quite happy to talk about silly little things too - I just like to be needed really )

Like beanytiger - reminds me of those little stripy beanies - dd has one that we both love (or maybe that wasn't the image you were going for?!)

SL xx

PS will look for thread but am not good at that searching thing either

PS2 Am still blown away by how you are coping - how about SuperBeany?

Hi SuperBeany, how are things? I hope you are managing ok ATM.

SLurking xx

hi

ive been feeling pretty wierd...emotional and premenstrual/menstrual...but mainly ok!..

i was wondering though, if you ever got any counselling?...my s,worker wa saying that she feels this is prob the most important thing to do [along with a holiday]...and that she thought i should choose one myself that has experience in 'this kind of area'

dp didnt get the job ...but noone is even faintly surprised....the odds were sooo against him....would have been a nice thing for us though.

he [which means we aswell]has had such a shit year ..its unbelievable.

things are getting back to normal in that do has said cornwall is a bit further than he wanted to go for a holiday...so he wont be budged!

its funny i keep seing your name and suzywong and elibean and twiglett and fattiemama and all the others names posting on other threads and i jusyt think you are all so lovely

still gushy
crouchingtigerhiddenbeans

re; councilling, I was told by SS that they would refer me but thy never did, eventually I ended up being in the care of the local Crisis team here (lots of other stuff happened too), they contacted SS and balled them out for leaving me with no support and also contacted my HV to get some help for me - and guess what - that's right I heard nothing!

In the end I put myself on the GP list here and waited months for a place to come up. When it did I found I had the best counciller I couldhave possibly asked for - although so much other stuff had happened by then it was only a small part of our conversations!

It is very important (IMO) that you get councilling - mainly because, no matter what the outcome, you will spend a lot of time thinking aobut this and the human brain is prone to burn out under so much pressure, you need a release - a constructive one.

I am sorry about dp's job, that would have been a nice thing to come out with wouldn't it

Sorry about Cornwall - have you thought about Devon, there are somelovely places on the coasts not all that disimilar from Cornwall? Or a few years back we went to Selsey and really enjoyed it there - is that closer? (I don't really know what type of holiday you are after of course so may be way off the mark here lol!)

I like Crouching/hidden - although takes a lot of typing?!

god it sounds liek youhad so much going on ...sounds liek it was shit on a MUCH larger scale.

the crisis team let a friend of mine down too...our other friend who is a gp {and therefore able to talk the talk] ended up having to advocate for her!!

ive been on a camping thread and found a link for a site in charmouth which is idael...inlaws can visit us in our tent!!... and ds gets to go to teh blimmin seaside at last ...tis all he goes on about.

im going to see if i can get counselling at college...and also ring some of the numbers/associations posted on the other thread.

grrrrrbeans xx

hmm, yes one thing kind of balloned out of another really, still not at the end of it all but getting there!

Site sounds good - ds should love the beach - dd2 was scared of sand at his age lol!

Hope you can find some good support at college, it would be nice to know that you can go away and come back to start the healing process rather than still bein gin the middle of it IYSWIM.

SLurking xxx

Hey BOT, how are you doing?

Did you get the holiday sorted yet?

Hope you are all really well.

wotcha securmummy!

(what does secur mean nayway?

our holiday is still very much pipeline...dp has A/L booked for the last two weeks of july.i had wanted to go sooner than that..but i dont mind that much.

now that ds's sores ahve cleared up its much easier to feel ok about things...i havent spoken to soc worker since last thurs ...she left a message on fri.I just 'want out' now...this is clearly not a conclusive case [mmmm...still a bit angry]

am going to ring th ecounsellors at college in a minute .

we are going to somerset [dp's family are down there] next weekend for the first England match...lots of uncles and cousins....not to mention an orchard to play in and horses and dogs.

Hi there !

It doesn't mean anything - when I was joining every name I could think of was taken, after about 50 attempts I took the first word I could see - I had a "SecurID" tag at work so the name was born

The weekend away sounds good - can I tag along I can take or leave the match but the rest sounds great!

I know what you mean about wanting out, however, I would advise that you follow it through until they decide they want out, simply as it may be taken as a bad sign by SS if you suddnely back off having pushed so hard in the first place IYSWIM.

How did you get on with the counsellors?

SM xx

hi there....

really secur ... i keep seiing your posts on other threads...your blimmin lovely!!

ive got some counselling booked for next week...think im going to get a six week block.

my frind who does alot of therapy syas its really important to be abole to get angry.....im starngely exited about that.

hope you have a lovely weekned...i dont know where you are but this weather is set to last in the south.hoooooorah...im such a sun bum.

xx

Hey there!

Be careful not to look at the dog thread - even I can get sidetracked sometimes - it is strange what pushes your buttons isn't it!

Have a fab weekend away and let me know how the councilling goes.

xx

looking for it now......

[know i wont find it!]

Oooooh Charmouth for your hols, very nice. My Dad used to take me to Burton Bradstock a little further up the coast, Mum would sit in the car a tad lemon-lipped as she always reminded us she hated the beach. However.

Hope you all have a great holiday

oh no, now you will have seen a different side to me and never want to talk to me again

Well, the weather here is roasting and set to continue for the weekend (I thin due to break next week) so I hope you have equally good weather and the match does not get in the way too much of having a good time

...i dont know what you mean?!...nothing 'barking' on the thread i saw!

our weekend away was quite lovely..infact th efootball was a highlight!
dp watched it in the sitting room and i lazed in a cool bedroom reading a book with ds (almost) napping beside me!

bliss for two whole hours...unheard of!

im up a bit late for me,but its so frickin hot im all stroppy and cant sleep!

hows tricks with you?

Hi hun, sorry I missed this and just had to search all over to find the thread again!

I am at work a the mo, all here is ok really, nice and hot although I can't sleep either!

Oh BTW I meant to give you my email address if you want to email me at any time feel free.

secur77 @ hotmail . co. uk (take out the spaces!)

Hope you are well

hi there....im off to a teddy bears picnic shortly..[in primrose hill...oooooohhhh theres posh]..so i wont be chatting for long...

oh god im SO SOS SO addicted to mumsnet at the moment its tragic!!...im posting all sorts of shit everywhere...at all times of day...sigh.

i prob will email you soon...the thing with ds is ok but im really gutted about thelack of stuff to nail the suspect with...children still at risk i reckon

nosey moment...what work do you do?...you dont have to say if you dont want. ive realised that once again,when i qualify im going to be doing a job where i cant use teh net or teh phon whenever i want....doh!

what am i going to do about my mnet addiction?

glad your well too

I work on the computer all day and ahve not got monitored internet so is easy to have a page or two open alongside my work!

Glad ds is ok, it is frustrating, the only thing I can say is to keep pushing SS to find out what they are going to do to keep an eye in future. I guess you kind of have to say at some point though - well atleast you have got ds out and you have done all you can for the other kids, it is out of your hands now it is frustrating though. I know that the person involved with us has got involved with another family but I have no power to do anything - even to warn them without risking making my childrens lives harder and putting them more at risk.

Do email me if you get chance. Look forward to hearing from you

SM xx

yep...have your address...im not sure whats going on in my head at the moment really.have had more ss visits...find tehm very annoying!

as you have seen i am currently distracting myself with pregnancy fantasies ...watch this space...i bet AF visits within th ehour

Yep tbh in the end once the fluffy feelings have worn off they do tend to come across as a bit .... pants!

Well, I for one am voting for a BFP! Forget AF, maybe if you don't think about it it will go way?

Speak soon xx

sorry to intrude, Secur is that you from the June04 thread.... I havent been on mumsnet for nearly a year now as Junie04s were never big talkers. Its Karen01.

Hi there! I have been thinking about the 04 lot recently and wondering how everyone is - it was dd3's 2nd birthday today! How is your dd/ds (sorry I am rubbish at remembering things - it will all come back to me but I need a little start )

What has happened to you in the last two years? I can't get over how fast it has gone (or at least seems to have to me!)

Did you get through all the baby bits ok? Have you hit the terrible twos yet?

We should start a June 04 thread just for us!

Look forward to hearing from you!

SMxx

Hi BOT, I am really sorry to hear you news from the other thread, hope yu are all well as can be.

Thinking of you

SMxx

DS was 2 on the 19th June, we have hit the terrible twos.

If you can remember we moved to cyprus when ds was 8weeks old we have 4 months left then we are movoing to Germany so things are getting a bit manik at the moment.

Is everything ok with you and yours, you had 4 children didnt you!!! My DD will be 10 in october, we are debating number 3!!

Hi Luckylady - mini thread here