lost the plot today!

[Bangonthedoor]

So...this evening was the first time ive flipped out and had a "im a rubbish mum" moment in ages.

For some reason DD who is 13 months wouldnt settle for sleep and was really crying. She only does this every now and again and usually im pretty laid back about it but this evening i just couldnt cope. In the end i just didnt have the energy to battle i went in her room shouted then put her on her bedroom floor with her still crying. I then just sat with her and cried. We cuddled to calm down then she gave me a kiss and i put her back to bed...she then went straight to sleep. Since this i cant stop questioning myself as a mum and whether i should have forced her to go to bed and i certainly feel bad for shouting. Opinions please?

I thought these days were over?!

I feel so guilty i just want to go and sleep on her bedroom floor tonight.

but what do you mean by "these says were over" and " had a "im a rubbish mum" moment in ages"
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do you have older children?

maybe a visit to your GP is worth a try?

Some good mothers shout sometimes. It's not ideal but it happens. I shout quite a bit because I'm a flare up and cool down quick person. What's important is that your children know you love them and that you've made it ok again. Your dd is very little. There's lots of scope for frustration and difficulty in communicating. You've got probably another 17-18 years of hands on parenting to go plus the rest of your life. You WILL very likely shout again, many,many times. Just try to avoid flashpoints and always make up properly. Don't be so hard on yourself. JUst like babies don't melt in rain they don't dissolve when briefly shouted at. Shouting all the time and/or attacking their self esteem etc is a completely different thing. I shouted at all my dds today. Lunchtime and dh was away and they were all bickering and whining and pinching (dd3) and bossing (dd1) and I shouted taht I'd had it and I was off. Went and stood in teh front garden for a few minutes then came back in and we moved on. It wasn't very nice but it wasn't a disaster.

When i said i thought these days were over i meant the questioning yourself and unsure that what you are doing is right etc. Dd is my only child so still learning lots. Yes i am a cool down quickly person also i just feel disappointed in myself that i couldnt handle the situation better. Today i just feel that there is so much more i could be doing for her and im not doing enough etc :-(

Im sure i'll get over it just needed to air!

Tomorrow is another day. Don't worry.

Don't worry Bang - everyone has these moments with their kids.

Start again tomorrow

By the way - you will be doing the questioning yourself thing till they are 18, so don't worry!

I don't think it stops at 18. I'm 36 and I told my mum I was having a tooth root filled the other day. She immediately started agonising over had she eaten the right things in pregnancy.

Thanks guys. Feeling much better today. Hehe northernlurker that did make me giggle