14 weeks sleep training?

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My daughter is 14 weeks old and we are trying to get her to sleep in her crib (I'm our bedroom) at 8pm.

She's normally up with us until her last feed (about midnight) but its leaving no adult time.

Is it too early? I thought the first night was going okay but it's almost time for her last feed and she's only had about 20 minutes sleep between cries. I now think that when I get her up for her last feed she'll think 'she's won" the battle.

Obviously we're not tryin to get her to sleep from 8pm til the morning yet. But just a couple of hours between 8 and midnight would be nice.

Just wondering if we're trying too early or we should wait until she no longer needs a midnight bottle.

I'm trying the 'put baby down, pick up when cries, settle and put back down. Repeat' method.

Thanks for any thoughts.

Our DD is a very light sleeper too. There was not a chance in hell she would have slept in the same room as us cooking dinner etc. So it was either follow the SIDS advice but she wouldn't sleep till we went to bed (and would get insanely overtired) or ignore the SIDS advice and put her upstairs with a monitor.

Thanks for the support guys

Last night she went down a lot easier than the first night as expected and she slept in her bed til her last feed. Got up this morning at 9! Lazy blighter. I think a bedtime routine CAN be learnt at this age.

I think she's happier this way. She definitely got over tired and perhaps when I was out for work she get too excited when I got home? Who knows.

Either way, every baby is different an what might work for some might not for others. I think she is happier this way (even though its only been 2 nights)

Thanks for all your comments.

Congrats! That's fab. I'd definitely agree that some babies prefer things this way - mine certainly does.

I dnt think its too early at all. We started a 7pm bedtime at 3 months, dd sleeps 12 hrs (with a dream feed) we did the Gina Ford routine for a week,but found it too intense! But stuck to trying to make sure dd didnt nap past 5 and having a bedtime routine they will recognise.
Im sure some mums will scowl at that,but think its totally fine to wnt a bit of routine n time alone with ur hubby at night x

I've come a bit late to this conversation, but just wanted to say, that I don't think it's too early, and if you're "bizare" then so am !!

My DS was going upstairs to bed in his cot in his own room by then at 7pm. It's not like you're not abandoning your DC - just giving yourself some much needed adult time out! I would have gone a bit crazy if I didn't get an hour or two of non-baby time each day.

When they cry, go in & comfort / feed until happy, then put them back down to sleep. What's wrong with that?! I found that my DC settled better in his own room, than with us, and I was always there when he needed me. It's not bizzare and not being a bad mum. You've got to do what works for you and your DC.

FYI, we did the "sssh" method, where we'd go in every 5 minutes if DC was crying and had didn't need to be fed/changed/winded etc., stroke his head and sing to him or say sssh - it calmed DC down, never let DC too worked up or be on own for too long, and within a week, DC was going to sleep at 7pm brilliantly!