What do children wear to funerals?

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Sorry. Probably the wrong place to post but in a bit of a panic as have just got back from holiday and have to go straight to a family funeral with my DDs. I thought school uniform (smart with blazers) but older DD not keen. Ages 6 to 13. I'm not really thinking straight as there is so much to do. Help please?

Smart casual. School uniform is fine as is jeans/shirt.

Our family have a tradition of wearing bright colours to celebrate a life but I know not everyone thinks this way.

Anything smartish I'd say. Best jeans/chinos and shirt/jumper for boys. A's long as clean and smart anythings fine.

Thanks! Appreciate the advice.

Smart, clean and tidy, mutated colours unless requested otherwise.

Clean and comfy. If there are likely to be other children there to play with afterwards then I would prioritise something they can run about in etc. The last funeral my dc went to was bil's. Dd1 wore trousers (coloured jeans) and a top. Dd2 wore a wool tunic over a top with tights and dd3 wore a dress. I don't think anybody bothers what dc wear as long as it's not a tutu or swimming costume

If older DD not keen on school uniform, do you have a small friend she could borrow something from? Did the same last year with my DD and she borrowed a v smart black suede jacket from a v petite friend just for the day. No-one minds lending in these circumstances, and no-one's looking at the kids so doesn't matter if it's a bit big.

Sorry for your loss, OP.

There's no need to wear black or dark colours, just clean and not too scruffy.

Sadly we had one last week - DD(9) didn't go, but DSs (13 and 15) wore dark smart trousers and shirts. Only other children there were direct family members and they wore suits (teenagers) and smart trousers/shirt or dresses (younger)

DD ended up at the wake in school uniform but that's more because I went straight back with her after I picked her up from school (very close friends, so not maybe as odd/intrusive as it sounds)

I think just smart casual - the sort of thing they would wear to church. The usual rule of black does not apply to children so there is no need to but anything. So smart jeans/skirt and a modest top or a dress. DC may feel a bit conspicuous in school uniform. As long as they are not in party clothes or beach wear it will be fine. Sorry for your loss.

Im not really sure about older kids but I had to take my son to a funeral when he was 16 months (normally wouldn't of taken him but my dh had to work and our only babysitting option was at the funeral) I just put him in black trousers and shoes with a smart tshirt

As others have stated, smart and clean is enough. Don't worry about colours, people understand that children's normal clothing is not black, and it's a bit much to have to go out and buy new clothes for a funeral. Sorry for your loss.

Thanks all. Little one in a plain smart dress. Others will wear simple but smartish (avoiding short shorts and torn jeans.) No uniform so all happy. Appreciate the support. It's been a difficult time.

The funerals DC have gone to DS (then 6) asked to wear the suit he'd worn for a wedding and I got a kids back tie in MS.

DDs did not come to either funeral, just to the wakes afterwards, DD1 (then just 4) wore a black skirt and plain T-shirt, DD2 then 1 wore a dress, can't remember the colour