Is it right to put your baby on Facebook?

[Notsoyummymummy1]

I put pics of my dd on Facebook when she was born so relatives overseas could see her and I must admit it was quite addictive getting all these comments about how cute she was. Since then though I haven't put her on there because it doesn't feel right to effectively "publish" photos of her without her consent. Am I being silly? The thing is other family members have started posting pictures with her in and I'm not entirely comfortable especially as I don't know who is able to see it. I feel really silly asking them to take them off though as everyone else seems happy to do it. My friends are always putting up photos of their children and details about what they are up to - am I being silly to not like it?

The way I think about it is that I only put up photos I'd also put up of a friend so nothing embarrassing or nude. I figure if I'd do that of a friend without express permission it's fine to do of dd.

Not saying I'm right just letting you know what I do

Yes. I think you're being silly.

What's the harm?

I don't think it's appropriate for people to put up pictures of your kids - or any children not their own. You can control your own privacy settings and who sees your pics. You can't control theirs.

It's a personal choice whether to our up photos of your children or not - I'm not going to. I wouldn't feel bag asking people to take them down. We asked people not to put any photos of our wedding on FB but if anyone missed that email and did or them up I asked them to remove them.

I think there's a modern movement towards people presuming that they own their image and it should never be used without them, not even in a factual way, not in the newspapers or film footage of an event (no matter why the reasons for distribution,etc). I don't know how this is going to be reconciled. It seems ridiculous to me to have presumption of copyright on our image, even for children or other vulnerable individuals.

Agree with StrangeGlue, I put pics of my own DCs on FB doing funny things or celebrating their birthday etc but I don't usually post pics of other people's DCs unless I know that they regularly do so themselves. If I want to share them I do it in a private message.

However, that's only because I understand that some people are funny about it - I can't see the harm in it myself and wouldn't mind friends posting pics of my DCs (as long as obviously appropriate).

I'm not sure if its the idea that paedos are scouring the internet for photos of kids playing in the garden which worries people (I imagine in reality they know exactly where to look for the type of images they really want to see) or whether its just a privacy issue, but I would be far more concerned about people posting photos of me looking rough than pics of my kids, who always look adorable!

I put photos of my DD on, but if any of my friends children are in the photos I would always ask their permission first.

I have only posted a couple of pictures of DS on FB. Mainly because they have ownership of the photos once posted.

Instead I use google plus to share photos with friends and family. I have very high security settings and do not allow anyone to download or share photos I have posted.

Just to add to my last post. Another thing to consider is that your LO might find photos that you now consider cute embarrassing or even harmful to their reputation when they are adults.

It is very hard if not impossible to regain control over photos once they are on the net.

I don't think you're being silly.
Putting pics of my DCs on the www isn't for me either.
I don't know how to deal with your other family members though - the thing is because people have become so blase about it, whatever you say sounds like you're being precious.

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I understand what you mean OP.

My solution to this is asking whomever has posted the pics to 'just make sure your picture settings are set to friends only, thanks'.

HTH

Everyone has thier own opinion really, its completly your choice. In this situation thier is no right or wrong I put up pictures of my children on Facebook but have all my settings to friends only and if I tag anyone I check thier friend list first and anyone that has pictures of my kids they know to ask before putting them online

I don't put pics of my or any other dcs on the www so I don't think your being overly fussy. I think I'm in the minority though.

I'm the same so we have started a completely private group with just our close friends and we add any photos on there as they are the only people I want to see the photos anyway, not Jo blogs who prob wouldn't even say hello in the street, it works really well as is an easy form of communication if like myself your away from your friends family.