Ds2 has lost his best friend..

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Ds2 (13) has lost his best friend and is very upset, his mum has up and gone, leaving the area suddenly, my dear son is very upset and I'm not sure what I can do for him, he wants to have contact with him, I think he wants to make sure he is alright, he was in tears when he realised he would not see him anymore, he didn't get a chance to say goodbye, so he has had no closure, your advice please.

that's so sad, heart goes out to your ds

i guess you haven't got new contact details - can only suggest writing to old address and hoping it'll be forwarded on?

I'm assuming that ds' friend hasn't got a mobile your ds could ring him on?

Try asking other friends if they have contact details?

Other than that, I'm sure ds' friend will make contact with ds himself.

In the meantime, hugs to your ds and I hope he hears from his friend soon X

No contact details, his step father is still at the old address, he was the one who told ds2 that they had gone, and was starting a new school, I have thought about contacting school and asking them, but I'm not sure if this information would be considered as 'private' ds2 is very emotional when it comes to friends, once a friend, always a friend in his book..

won't the step father give your ds a phone number or address? or the name of the new school?

i would try asking the school - i suspect they won't give out that information, but it's worth a try

have you any idea where they have gone - i.e. what town/area? if all else fails you could try placing a small ad in the local free paper?

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I don't think the step father knows the new address or contact number, we think he is the reason they have gone so quickly, ds2 friend was with us nearly every hour of every day over the christmas period, and every evening after school, after talking to son it appears they were having problems so his friend tried to stay out of their way, ds2 friend had not been to school for 2 weeks, this in its self was not unusual, but on the third week he still did not show up, we thought 'something' was wrong, ds2 called his number and that's when he found out they had gone. We are not sure where, son doesn't want to talk much to his friends step father, he blames him for him going...wether this is right or not.

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MN i think in your position i would approach the stepfather myself if ds feels he doesn't want to.

i'm sure the school would forward a letter to the new school. maybe not to the friend but to his mother. certainly worht try.

Perhaps your son's friend will contact you soon. Otherwise I would check friends reunited now and then and register your son on it as they may be able to regain contact there.

Thanks for your reply's, we have decided to write a letter to him (ds2 best friend), through school, ds2 feels good about this, I hope it helps to settle his mind.

Just thought I would update those of you who helped in my time of need.. My ds2 today talked to his friend via telephone..such a look of relief came over his face to know his friend was alright, his friend was not able to say where they are at the moment, just that he is ok and hopes to speak again soon to ds2. A wonderful belated birthday call. (ds & dd 13 yesterday).

Good to hear a positive update

oh brilliant!!, I know i didnt post.... everyone gave such good advice, wasn't much to add, I was going to ask how it turned out but didnt want to intrude.

Just wondered if your ds has heard from his friend again MN?