I agree with other posters, focus on food as fun and play and sharing what you are doing, and in time - and I mean time, loads of it - it will all come together.
My dd is now 2.2 and we did blw. Mostly she tried things off my plate, or easy things that I could do her alongside, like a grilled mushroom, or some yoghurt, or bits of whatever was at hand in the fridge, mostly fruit. (I still remember the joy for her and us when she suddenly at about 9 months developed the ability to pick up a pea!)
Between 6 months and now she has gone through phases of eating loads, eating everything, eating nothing, and being really picky, and not being picky at all. Each of these phases has passed. They aren't phases that last a mealtime, they can last weeks (the worst one was three months between 9 and 12 months, when she wasn't particularly well either). I have tried to keep it relaxed and have a few rules for me.
I NEVER tell her that food is delicious or tasty - I always ask her what she thinks, or tell her that I like it (or I don't like it - like when she tried pickled onion with yoghurt last week). I figure I can't experience her tastes for her and she needs to know that I respect her opinion.
I repeat endlessly that she doesn't have to try it, and doesn't have to swallow or have more if she doesn't like it. She can spit it back out and put it on my or her plate.
She can try anything she likes off my plate (this can be a shame when you have your favourite cake nicked but....) which means she has also tried spicy and hot things.
Until recently I never mentioned mess, she could make as much of it as she liked with food (and sometimes that was all she did). Since about 18 months old I've intervened a little if she makes deliberate mess, but I still let her touch and feel and squeeze things, which I think is an important part of not being afraid of mouth texture and feel.
We have regular mealtimes (ish, we aren't very routine based, but certainly three a day, though it was more like 2 for her when she was little as she was often asleep during one) and she is always offered food. No food is banned either, we have chocolate and chips and so on as part of our diet - just in moderation like everything else.
Over time I think this has really worked, but there have been weeks where I have despaired. Generally now she eats well and a very varied diet, and above all, is willing to give things a try. We don't have any 'child' food in the house - adult yoghurt, biscuits, meals, etc.
Do stick with it and keep it relaxed, food is such an emotional minefield for all of us these days I think it's worth trying to give it a go at keeping it stress free. I've been motivated to do this because I have my own food issues which I'm convinced started with my parents having very rigid rules around a lot of food. Good luck!