If you had a large and spacious five-bedroom/four bathroom home, would you...

[Bonsoir]

... make your two DCs (10 and 8) share the smallest bedroom?

No. We all need private space.

My dc are young and I like my office!

So, now they share. But, when they need it the spare room is theirs. And we need to move...

Maybe there is something particularly good about the small room that you haven't thought of. I think you are being a tad dramatic with your statement about wanting to controll their existence. Basically you are saying that the parents are emotionally abusing their children by making them share a small room. [Hmm] I hope to god these people don't assume you are a friend!

Friends with a 4 bedroom house have all 3 children in one bedroom as that's how the children want it. Not all children want their own rooms, they like to chat before going off to sleep etc

No I wouldn't do it. If they wanted to share that would be fine but I'd get them sharing a bigger room.

We do have a 5 bed/ 4 bath. Only 1 child ATM. One is our bedroom, one is a study, one is a guest room, one is DS bedroom and one is off the kitchen on a different floor- playroom (and general dumping ground!)
If we had a second I see 2 options- do away with the study but it is full of stuff that has to live somewhere,

• DC share a bedroom for sleeping and then have a playroom for toys eye.

It would depend on lots of factors, and is kind of irrelevant as we are sticking at 1. But option 2 doesn't seem terrible to me

I would be mortified if I invited a friend to lunch, showed them round my house and then they posted that they were uneasy about this on an internet forum. I hope the mother concerned doesnt read MN as I am sure she would be very upset and quite rightly so. Why not just say to her at the time do your boys prefer to share if you wanted to know?

my dd1 wants to share with her 2 sisters (who are still in cots so won't happen yet). Why does the play room need to be near their bedroom our play room is down stairs as I like dc to play near me so I can dip i'm and out - cook dinner etc without being in their bedrooms. Bed rooms are for sleeping.
This family's children can have own space by going in living room, dining room or play room.
If my DC had their way the smallest room in our house would have a big mattress on the floor for them all to sleep on, the only thing stopping me is a daft comment on mn about a year ago that told me it would be child abuse and social services insist every child has own bed.