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ds has turned into a thug - advice please?

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weewilliewinkie · 19/05/2006 14:21

He's 2.4yrs and a pretty big boy for his age. He's always had a tendency to be a bit rough with other kids but I've always put that down to not knowing his own strength etc...however, recently he's just been downright nasty. He attacked a 5 year old(!) the other day by sitting on his back and yanking his ears up - I was bloody mortified and completely lost it. He got a smack for that one - and he never gets smacked. I felt awful afterwards.

We go to a music class and I spent the morning chasing him around, telling him off for pushing other kids around. I do the whole naughty step bit but it's having no effect as yet. He knows that all he has to do to get off it is to sit there quietly until I come back to get him, then he stands up and says 'sorry'. And promptly runs off and repeats the bad behaviour!

I know it probably sounds petty but it's really getting to me now. My mum called earlier to see how I was and I just burst into tears. He goes to a creche 3 mornings a week and is an angel. Just seems that when I'm there he plays up.

What can I do to get the message through that he can't go around hurting others? He hits me and dh too when we tell him 'no'. I just find myself losing my temper with him more and more, and I don't want to be like that.

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Roo77 · 19/05/2006 14:37

I wish I had some advise but keep posting and someone will come along who knows more than me. Don't get upset, I'm sure there is a simple solution.

Roo77 · 19/05/2006 14:37

I expect it's just a phase he is going through.

blueteddy · 19/05/2006 14:42

Oh, big sympathies. I am going through a very similar stage with my DS2 (3) & know how much it gets you down.
The other day my Mum took him to baby gym & he hit 3 children, one of which was a baby.
He also hits & bites his 6 year old brother & I just don't know what to do with him. We try the naughty step, but like your DS, it doesn't bother him & after a few mins he will say "I want to say sorry" & repeats the bad behaviour.
He is also having constant strops & tantrums about anything & nothing, which really drags you down.
I spoke to my HV who said to ignore his bad behaviour & praise the good, but that is easier said than done, especially when he is hurting other children.
I have tried getting down to his level & saying "NO" firmly. This does seem to make him stop in his tracks for a little while.

Sorry I have no great advice, but wanted you to know that you are not alone here!

weewilliewinkie · 19/05/2006 16:16

thanks for your replies, I know that lots of parents go through this - I just don't want to end up on Little Angels! We've just spent an ok afternoon together...it's when there's other children about he's a nightmare. He'll push babies over too, like he's showing he's the big kid and 'in charge' - but because he's the same size as many 3 year olds, he pushes them about too.

I'm so fed up being the mum who's running after him, telling him off the whole time, and all the other children are so well behaved! I feel like everyone's watching ME to see if I'm handling him properly..and I don't feel like I am, most of the time. Blush

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