feeling like a bad mummy again...

[mum2sam]

Took sam to nursery having went for one afternoon last wk and he screamed his off and would not let me go. Last week he was absolutely fine he even waved goodbye that was his first time though so maybe he didnt know what to expect. They said he was ok then though and was happy playing.

Should i be worried or should i just continue with it and see how it goes. Do you think nursery nurses actually tell you the truth about whether they were ok or not? feeling very guilty although must admit hes been like that a few times before when ive left him with his daddy or if he doesnt want to go to him. Hope its a case of out of sight out of mind these hours are gooing to drag...

I used to work in a Nursery and we were always honest with mums about how settled or unsettled the children were. Often after the first few sessions the children would find it hard to let mum go but once she was gone they would settle and play happily. The seperation process took a varied amount of time depending on the child.
Some tips we used to use were,
Stay and settle them in for a SHORT period and make sure they know when you are going and that you will be back "eg I'll read a story and then Im going to go, I will come back when lunch is finished"

Try to have consistent days and times that your child attends and preferably more than once a week as 7 days is a really long time for a child to remember a new place and new people.

Talk about Nursery at home in a positive way "We could do a painting like you do at Nursery", "Tomorrow is Nursery day and you will see your friends"

Distress at letting you go is a process and is really normal. It is incredibly hard as a mum to leave when your child is upset. Please be reassured that it doesnt mean you are a bad mum or that he hates being at preschool. Keep at it and let the Nursery know that you are worried and they maybe able to give you a call during the day to let you know he is ok.

oh, give yourself a break! Honestly, it is hard but I do think most kids do this and then are fine once you leave! You;re not being a bad mum at all! It's in the interests of the nursery to tell you the truth as the'yre thhe ones delaing with him all day. give him time to get used to it, I'm sure he'll soon be settling in well.