Don't like my baby's name

[nina01]

I would really appreciate some reassurance - my little girl is 4 months old and I really don't like her name, it doesn't resonate with me at all. It was my husband's choice, and as I named our son I let him choose her name. I must have liked it at some stage, as i agreed to it a year earlier if we had a girl (sadly ended in a miscarriage when 3 months pregnant) but I felt pressured into it, and he wouldn't agree to any of the names I suggested. We needed an urgent birth certificate and passport, so she needed a name! My parents hate it, so I'm not sure whether that has changed my opinion. I am having anxiety attacks about it, and can't stop questioning myself! He said we could change it in a year if I'm still unhappy, but that's too late. I'm trying to call her by her name to get used to it, but keep calling her 'baby'. Friends have said it's a great name, but I'm really unsure. Her name is India, and I sometimes shorten it to indie

OP - this was the name that you would have used with the baby you miscarried.
Could it be that you associate the name with that loss?
Is it possible that you are a cross with your husband for using the name that 'belongs' to the baby you lost?

I am wondering if there is some grief under this.

In terms of the name, if you don't like it, change it now. No problem to change a name, the birth certificate even has a column called 'name if changed within 12 months of birth' which is where the new name goes.
my parents changed their mind and so my birth certificate has that. It is no big deal.
And your mum? If you keep the name, make a firm comment to her that she is not to comment on the name again.

This child was named in 2013.

THAT IS 9 YEARS AGO.

Zombie threads are in abundance today!!!!

😳😳

🤣🤣 I wonder if OP likes the name yet 🤔

I love that name , India / Indie would be one of my first choices

OH BUGGER I hate zombie threads.

I do think that zombie threads should keep their warning sign for the next 20 posts of something!

@Bleurose - you are a great person to have around 9 years after an event.

if It’s still really making you feel down by the year mark then just change it, but the down side to that is she will probably be responding to her name by then and you won’t want to confuse her

Oh damn, I just spent ten minutes thinking of names that OP could change the baby's name to, that her DP could use India as a nickname for, before I saw the comment about it being a zombie thread! How does it happen that a 9yr old thread suddenly pops up?! Come back and tell us how you feel about the name now @nina01 , did you keep it?

I wonder if you're hatred for the name may originate from the miscarriage, as the name was theoretically intended for someone else.

I think 4 months is a long time not to get used to a name, especially when you are around the person all day. Is there any way you could alter the name just slightly, so that your nickname would still fit? Indiana, Indira, Indeah etc.

Have a look at this link: www.babynamespedia.com/names/girl/ind-start

Hope you find a solution that makes everyone happy (including you).

Hahaha, me too. I think because kidspot reported on it. Maybe OP can comment and let us know what happened in the 9 years.

I haven’t read all the replies so this could have been said already, but if you change the name within 12 months from birth, the name is changed on the birth certificate. I was going to do the same and spoke to the register office and they said it happens very often which is why within the year from birth it is a very simple process - go to the birth register office and they change it on the birth certificate. If you don’t like your daughter’s name, change it. You will regret it later on, if you don’t.

I haven’t read all the replies so this could have been said already.....

@BananaSplitX

The OP posted in 2013

Ha, ha, ha. Brilliant!!! I think we all want to know what happened 😅

I adore the name!! Beautiful