Why does parenting always cause so much guilt??

[Flossam]

Have been working full time for a month now and I do enjoy my work. DS seems quite happy now after an unsettled start, and loves his time with the CM. However, I work around 54 hrs one week and just 24 the next. And I miss DS so much! I feel so bad parceling off even though I know I am not. Things have been hard for DP and I, he has been very stressed and been unwell for two weeks now. Tonight we are going out. We need to. We haven't been out in 9 months, and it does do us some good. However, it means less time with DS again, and again I am feeling guilty and can't wait to go and get him tomorrow already!! No win situation. Right whinge and rant over, should just be grateful I am going out at all must get on with me make up!

I do know how you feel but if ds is happy then it is fine.

the rule tonight though is that you mustnt talk about ds!!!!

have fun!

have a nice night:)

honestly though you have nothing to feel guilty about

How old is your DS? I'm sure as he develops you will slot into the routine and it will feel more normal, not so gut wrenching...

And never feel bad about giving some time to you as a couple - you need to be strong and happy in order to give your DS a secure family....and it is really healthy to have a relationship outside being parents. As Collision said try not to talk about him ALL night!!!

Have a lovely time.

There are no perfect parents but we all want to be. Hence inevitable guilt.

Think about the positives of the choices you have made, that will make you a better parent!

Thanks everyone. Had a really nice time and managed to have a good chat with DP about things. Twas nice to be out, nice to have DS home even though he did complete ignore me .