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help help help-i really don't know how to handle this

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muppety · 09/05/2006 13:55

Ds1 is 2.8. I was in no rush to train him and was happy to let him take his lead. He will wee on a potty but never poo. He is obviously aware of the senstions and definately articulate enough to let me know.

Anyway. He has started taking his nappy off at every opportunity if you turn around for a second. He will then rush off and wee anywhere on purpose. In last coule of days it has been on my bed, his bed, the sofa, behind the sofa, carpet etc etc. These are NOT accidents. When eating breakfast today (with no nappy as he took it off) I could see him trying to wee when he announced his 'wee was stuck'. Half was through his rice crispies he was very pleased to find it was no longer stuck and then wee was dripping everywere!!

If he does a poo he will rip of his nappy and smear it. Today at toddler group he stuck his hand down his nappy and it was everywhere. I was sooooooooooo embaressed. One lady with 2 girls came up to me at the end and said 'I am glad I don't have boys, I am never having another as I can't take the risk'

Do i ignore this behaviour or tell him off and draw attantion to it. Its hard to ignore. If he goes to his room he will just pee on the bed. Should I just bin the nappies and potty train ( or at least try). I am starting to feel a bit house bound but I am worried this will become a bahavioural issue and really needs addressing.

Thanks for your words of wisdom!

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WigWamBam · 09/05/2006 13:57

Friend of mine used to Gaffer tape the nappy on when her son started taking it off. Which isn't much help with the behavioural aspect of your problem but might ease things a bit if it works and he can't get his nappy off.

Twiglett · 09/05/2006 13:58

lady with 2 girls is an idiot .. ignore her

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Hattie05 · 09/05/2006 14:01

Hi, my dd did this with wee, (never poo thank goodness!). She used to enjoy being rudey nudey and spent much of the time naked, so i kept potty nearby, but she did often deliberately wee on the floor.

I used to not say a word or react, lead her by the hand to get kitchen roll, lead her back to mop the wee with me, lead her into the bathroom to wash her down - all in absolute silence. And then i'd say if you need a wee use the potty.
She had was only 2 and i had no intentions on potty training, but she quickly got bored of my dragging her back and forth to clean up the mess, and before i new it she was potty trained!

At the time it was infuriating, but now i look back, i think it was a vital part to her training herself. She was obviously ready and experimenting - just needed my help in showing her where to do it!

So i think my answer to you is start putting him in pants and tell him to use potty when he needs to go (keep it in the same room as him initially). See what happens - don't bother reacting at all to accidents so he neither thinks its a game nor gets scared about potty training altogether.

FrayedKnot · 09/05/2006 14:02

I think I would train him. It strikes me he has suddenyl realised there is an action his body performs which he can control, so he is having fun with it.

If he can control it, he is ready to train imo.

I would go with really big rewards for going on potty / loo and ignoring anything anywhere else, as much as poss,.

Sounds easy in theory (DS is 2.2 and I am quaking on the edge of shall I, shan't I!!).

Hattie05 · 09/05/2006 14:02

[shock!] about the boy comment!!

Not true at all!

bluejelly · 09/05/2006 14:03

My instinct would be to ignore bad behaviour and reward good...
Poor you though, esp with that other woman's comments!

sunshinegirl · 09/05/2006 14:09

Poor you, sounds dreadfully embarassing. I would try to ignore his behaviour as gaining attention from his antics is what he wants. Dr Tanya Byron explains it very well in her Little Angels book, that any attention (good or bad) is better than no attention at all. Re inforce the good with praise and ignore the bad. When ignoring you do have to carry it out to the bitter end though because if you give in they will know for next time! Good luck!!

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