does my DS (just 4) cry too much?

[mistressmiggins]

my DS is a v sensitive little soul

he is compassionate & loving; likes cuddles & kisses; will ALWAYS share his food, drink, chocolate with me; tries to look after his sister.

he hates coming last in a race & starts crying - I figure its just his age & am tring to teach him that you cant always win but as long as tried hardest thats all I can ask

went to a children's party on Sat & he clung to me some of the time BUT he only knew 3 other children, and one of them suddenly started running around with others he knew and DS felt left out.

my parents have told me that I need to stop crying in front of DS cos he starts school in September and needs to realise that crying (at all) is not acceptable

I dont agree with this
whats wrong with showing emotions?

oh and for people who dont know who I am (regular poster) my H left in Nov and now lives 3 hr drive away so surely thar is bound to have a small affect on DS

what Im asking for is reassurance that my parents are being too hard/chauvanistic on my DS - I would be interested to see if they were so worried about DD crying

It sounds to me as though you are doing a great job supporting your ds through a very difficult time. Sure, he needs to learn how to control his emotions but he's only 4 ffs! Keep talking to him and trying to explain the world and he'll get there when he's ready.

Oh goodness, I'm sure they mean well but I really disagree with their pov - I think it is unhealthy for anyone to bottle up their feelings.

You and your children have had a very hard time and I'm not surprised your ds cries easily. But I expect that will get better with time.

thanks for that
he is ONLY 4 !!!
I keep telling them that but apparantely he cries more than most boys - god knows where my parents base that info on

I even asked my dad if he thought that shouting in front of kids was acceptable over crying & he couldnt answer

I dont think that my DS cries too much but to be honest it just feels liek another example of me being picked on cos no man around

and actually this is prob another reason why I cant move on cos I know my ex would just let DS get on with it...except hes not here to back me up now

my DS is such a lovely boy and very brave/confident - but all my family seem to pick up on is that he cries

Ive even had to tell DS tonight to try not to cry in public cos am going on hol with parents for a week, and dont want a horrible time
it goes against how I feel....