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Pottry trained in Cod's easter intake, but not "got" the poo side yet. HELP!

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alittlebitshy · 08/05/2006 16:34

DD has been dry for almost a month, and not a signle accicent since day 6, and only 1 wet night nappy in that time. However, she cannot graps the poo aspect. Does it in her pants then comes and tells me. without fail. grr

She is 3 next week.... why oh why is she not getting it?????

She knows there are lots of incentives in place... rewards for when she does it the first time, and when she has got the idea, and she loves this... but it's just not happening. argh.

HELP!!

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frogs · 08/05/2006 16:59

Wait till she's due a poo (after meals is the obvious time), then sit her on the potty and keep her there for as long as takes, using whatever means necessary (bribes, special new toys only for use on the potty, whatever).

maddiebean · 08/05/2006 18:07

Oh I sympathise, my dd is just the same (she's 3yrs in June) she has been brilliant with the wees (excluding the last few days...don't ask...) but poos, no way! She has done a few poos in the toilet when I've caught her straining and popped her on and made a big fuss and praise when she has pooed in the loo. Otherwise she'll just poo her pants but she won't even say, I just have to 'find out' myself, lovely. NOT. She doesn't poo at the same time each day or in fact everyday (some days everyday, other times not for 2 days). It's a nightmare. Any ideas welcome :-)

Maddie
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Passionflower · 08/05/2006 18:34

alittlebitshy, we still haven't grasped poo either .

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alex8 · 08/05/2006 19:13

me me me, he often denies he has done it now too. Had a nightmare incident last week when I ended up stepping in it as I was helping him do a wee and it fell out. euwghh

Hes good at wees in the sense he can hold it (mostly dry nappies in the morning) but I still have to take him, he never says.

frogs if I did that we may be sitting there for 36 hours which would get a tad dull. he does no poos some days then 3 or 4 the next.

Rach69 · 08/05/2006 19:43

Personally I don't like making them sit on the potty for any length of time, a waste of time IMO - watched pot and all that. They also start to hate sitting there which defeats the whole point. I think you have to watch them like a hawk eg after eating and when you see the first sign of an imminent poo eg straining, squatting, red face etc (they need to be naked from the waist down ideally) - you whip them onto the potty where it will inevitably land. You then praise them loads and chocolate works well as long as you phase it out (this is conditioning and you replace the chocolate gradually with verbal praise alone). If they are ready, they will very quickly realise what it is you are trying to get them to do. This method worked really well for my 3 and after a couple of near misses they only had to it a couple of times to catch on.

Rach69 · 08/05/2006 19:46

Oh yes, once I had a friend round whose dissertation I was typing up. As we were looking at the monitor, I noticed over her shoulder a large brown poo on the dining room floor (thankfully had floorboards not carpet). Luckily she didn't spot it, she didn't have kids then and I'm not sure she would have understood! :)

Norah · 08/05/2006 19:57

Mine was the same - seems a long time ago now - she's 5.5 and was trained just after 2 - but I think nearly all of them get poo a bit later !

It will come - maybe in a couple of months time - don't stress over it ! I remember it being quite stressful - but I just always carried a clean sandwich bag and a clean pair of pants and it was rarely a real problem.

Stick with all the good stuff you are doing and one day she'll be there !

alex8 · 08/05/2006 20:28

Rach69 have been doing that for 5 weeks now. Sometimes we get to the loo in time but mostly not, hes the fastest pooer in the west. In the first 2 weeks he did about 5 in the loo. But hardly any since.

poppyseed · 08/05/2006 20:46

Ditto Norah. It will happen - concentrate on the ones that you've caught! Both of mine had a sort of ...well....change in body language. They'd start fidgeting and holding their bottoms to be frank and I'd whip them to the loo and sit them on their seat that they'd chosen and wait for the pooh to come! With DS we'd call it Mr ploppy and Mrs plippy (and DS took it far too many steps further and call it naughty plop etc). How silly it all looks in type !With loads of praise, encouragement, chocolate etc they got the hang of it eventually!
Good luck.

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alittlebitshy · 09/05/2006 18:13

hi, how're we all doing?

passionflower... great to see you here. are we the only easter (semi) graduates with the this ob do you reckon?

so many people say poos take longer, but i have no patience lol, and i over-react so am imagining here poing in pants at university (well, not quite - see what i mean about over-reacting lol)

hmm. i need to calm down and not go off on one about it. i think that the reason she had her first accident (wee) since we cracked it yesterday was because she was stressed by me going on and on about poo.

to her credit it is ALWAYS at home, so she clearly has some control, to the extent that she must hold it in, hold it in til she can not do so any longer (poor love) - but grr.

will try what was suggested in thread i found in search, and ignore ignore, ingnore, act bored. she hates being ignored, so.....

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Passionflower · 09/05/2006 23:29

alittlebitshy, DD2 took six months to get the hang of poo. I just keep telling myself DD3 can't take that long

rosiesmumof4 · 10/05/2006 11:05

3 of my 4 took somewhat longer to catch on with the poos - depressingly since everyone i mety seemed to tell me they chould "get" poos first. Ds3 was dry at 2.2 months, took almost 8 weeks to crack poos, and DS4 was a bit older but still took about 8 weeks before he sorted it. however once they do crack it it's pretty rapid ime

Blackduck · 10/05/2006 11:25

Have to admit the whole loo think was a bit late in this house (hangs head - naughty mummy not doing it sooner...), but apart from two accidents on the poo front we're got it - but I suspect its because he's a bit older...

sarahhal · 15/05/2006 22:09

Any tips about how to get the poo situation when he always goes whilst asleep at night?! Are totally sorted with wees but he will not go on a potty or the loo after his tea but without fail has done one by the time we go to bed! Have had hours of him screaming "Can't do it!" whilst trying to get him on the potty.

blueteddy · 15/05/2006 22:16

Oh, I am going through exactually the same thing with my DS! I started toilet training him in Feb & he seems to have got to grips with the wee side of things, but I can count the amount of poos that have made it to the potty/toilet on one hand. He seems to wait until I put on his bedtime pull up & will then poo in it, or he will just poo in his pants.
It is starting to really get to me now (I never had this problem with DS1), so will watch this thread with interest.

alex8 · 06/06/2006 11:44

anyone had any success yet? although I will be sick with jealousy if you have!

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alittlebitshy · 08/06/2006 18:45

hi!!!!
starting to get somewhere but we're not there yet.

on the whole over the last 3 days poos have ended up in the loo, and she is now saying poo-poo's coming and holding bottom rather than shutting self in room and doing it THEN informing me . HOWEVER in the process we are having so many false alarms and many mnay pants changes. sometimes she starts then stops, and either holds it in for later, or finishes on loo, or else the poo poo's coming is clearly really coming, then has to be sucked in.

i can see light at the end of the tunnel but right now it's only through a pin hole, lol.

how you all doing? esp you alex8!!!

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alex8 · 09/06/2006 09:10

Hes started doing them in the garden! Lovely Along with weeing there too. I have now threatened to get rid of the tv.

Having a barbecue tomorrow hope he doesn't do it then. He did do 2 in the loo when he was very very constipated. Hes dry at night though 99% of the time. We were scared of taking off his nappy but in this heat he keeps doing it himself. Have an nursery open day in July I hope he doesn't do it then. (They will not take them if they are not potty trained as its a school based nursery not a day nursery).

melsy · 09/06/2006 19:34

Hi alby & alex, I to am still struggling to get urchin to poo in toilet. Shes a regular 7am poooer , so its going to be a long time before it changes, but we still keep having accidents during the day with knickers, especially if shes had lots of fruit.

Wees are fine , although even with that shes started to wet herself and forget to go, but for poos she just wont go on the loo and has complete meltdown if we try, she says her bottom hurts or she repeatedly says she needs to wee,(even thought she may have done a huge one, so I know its the poo poo dance!!!), but wont stay on the loo, but I dont want to have to hold her down, seems ridic, but several minutes after, she goes in her knickers, damn frustrating.

johinds · 12/06/2006 11:00

michael is 3 today and we cannot get him to poo anywhere apart form his pants, he knows he wants to go but has declared it is dangeros. help any ideas. Jo

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alittlebitshy · 15/06/2006 20:17

still the same here. argh!!!!!!!
(just thought would check in and say sympathy/empathy please)

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melsy · 25/06/2006 22:06

just wanted to let those know who are still struggling with poos not in loo and need hope !Dd has now spontaneously started doing them on the loo twice this week YIPPEEEEEEEEEE. I just havent mentioned it for a few weeks and not driven her mad and a window of opportunity came when I changed her nappy earlier this week one morning and she had started one , so I said howsa bout trying to finish on the big toilet, she said she wanted to go on mummys toilet(we have one in our loft), she then said, " you will be proud in a minute of me", when sitting on there, and I soooo was. I made a big fuss and then gave her a very special treat for being so good about it all. She then amazingly went on her own to do one the next day and said "youll be excited by me in a minute"!!!!!. I am soooo pleased , its just strange having a very different response and behaviour towards it all , after melt down with it for weeks.

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