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Why did you decide to start a family?

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Ironmaiden · 08/05/2006 13:40

What prompted you to start the family? Was there a discussion first? Did it just happen? Did you get married just so you could have a traditional family? Do you ever regret having kids young? Do you wish you'd started earlier?

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marthamoo · 08/05/2006 13:42

We ran out of condoms.

Well, there was a little more to it than that - we'd been together for 7 years (not married though), and we were at that stage where it seemed like the natural progression of our relationship, so we had talked about it...

and then we ran out of condoms

blueteddy · 08/05/2006 13:44

No discussion - I just took my mini pill 4 hours too late!!

Tinker · 08/05/2006 13:45

I got pregnant.

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Marne · 08/05/2006 13:45

Dh already had 3 kids so i wanted one of our own, we discussed kids not long after we met as i thought dh would'nt want anymore, i was only 21 when we met and he was 36. I had dd1 when i was 22 and dd2 when i was 24 (8 weeks ago), i dont regret having them young and i cant wait to have more kids, shame dh does'nt want any more,lets just hope it just happens

Marne · 08/05/2006 13:47

we did'nt get married till dd1 was 8 months old, so not traditional at all.

kipper22 · 08/05/2006 13:47

we'd been together 7 years before marring in august 2004. after 3 months or so we decided to start ttc as we'd both always talked about having a family a year or so after we were married and assumed conception would take a few months. no sooner was the discussion (and natural act folling it!) over than I was pregnant! ds was born a year and a day after our wedding.

LucyJones · 08/05/2006 13:48

We discussed it because my dh didn't want them at first so I had to make it clear that I did before we got married

WigWamBam · 08/05/2006 13:48

Sounds like a flippant answer but it's the truth - I got pregnant.

Dh had always wanted children, I never had, but he chose to be with me regardless because he would rather have me and no children than risk losing me. So we didn't really talk about children much beyond that, and we certainly didn't decide to have a family. With hindsight I guess we should have started earlier (I was 38 and dh was 44 when dd was born). Anyway, I became pregnant whilst taking the Pill, and abortion wasn't an option ... so there you go.

muma3 · 08/05/2006 13:50

i had first toooooooo young. second partner i got married when discovered pregnant. third partner we decided to have children of our own and wish i had met him sooner. still would of had children young but not as young as 1st dd

will get married when all kids grown up so we can ALL get married iyswim unite all of us together

Mum2Ela · 08/05/2006 13:50

We had booked our wedding and, as we had 18 months to wait and I was nearing the end of my degree course, we thought we would fill the time by having a baby :) It was also a good incentive to lose all the baby weight before the wedding.

I was 22 when DD was born (am now 26). DH was 28. I think it was the right time for us, as we have had a DS since and would like another, so we still have lots of time :)

mumfor1standfinaltime · 08/05/2006 13:52

I said to dh one day, "Ive run out of pills and I dont want to get any more(from doctor)", so he said "well dont then!". 4 months later I was pg.

bamboo · 08/05/2006 13:56

We discussed it during an all day bender! (Those were the days.. ). We'd been married 3 years or so but children hadn't been on the agenda at all up until then. If I hadn't been able to conceive I honestly don't think I would have been bothered, does that sound awful? We would have just have gone on together with more money, better holidays etc. But I knew I would regret never having given it a chance. Obviously, I wouldn't be without them now! And part of me kind of wishes I'd started earlier because I love it and am not convinced there's ever a "right time".

skerriesmum · 08/05/2006 14:14

We had been together six years, married for five. I was bored and frustrated at work and wanted to try something new, never imagining how much everything would change afterwards! So glad we did it, and now we're expecting number two!

PeachyClair · 08/05/2006 14:18

DH was considereing a new sporty car and Is aid (mid shag) it's a car or a baby and he chose baby...

Only known him a few months at the time, though we were living together and enaged LOL! We move fast

PeachyClair · 08/05/2006 14:18

DH was considereing a new sporty car and Is aid (mid shag) it's a car or a baby and he chose baby...

Only known him a few months at the time, though we were living together and enaged LOL! We move fast

Pruni · 08/05/2006 14:20

DH had testicular cancer, and we were told we'd need ivf to have any chance of a family. Since I was 30 at the time, and having looked at the figures for success rates, we decided we might as well get on with it.
He didn't think it would work, and it did.
Not the most romantic start to a family, really. We did both want children though, and I'm glad the hand-wringing and persuasion didn't have to happen.

expatinscotland · 08/05/2006 14:22

We both wanted a family.

PinkKerPlink · 08/05/2006 14:23

because sending them to before abnd after school club seemed appealing

Caligula · 08/05/2006 14:24

Because I was 32 and couldn't be arsed to look for a new job.

FairyMum · 08/05/2006 14:39

Fashion accessory and status symbol!

iota · 08/05/2006 14:41

the biological clock was ticking

I said to dh It's now or never

we decided to see what might happen if we stopped using contraception

we now have 2 kids

alicemama · 08/05/2006 14:43

te,porary moment of insanity....twice!

Marina · 08/05/2006 14:44

To really annoy Minette Marrin and India Knight

blueshoes · 08/05/2006 14:45

Married in mid-30s. Dh has always wanted kids. My clock was ticking. Best decision we ever made. Could not and did not want to have children earlier because I had not met my life partner.

lua · 08/05/2006 14:50

I wish I had them earlier!

Thought one day I will have my life all sorted out, and theeeen would have the kids!
Guess what?! I still haven't had my life sorted out! Love my kids to bits, but it is total chaos!
Wish I had them earlier when I had more energy and less responsability to stress me out...

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