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Point scoring with a six year old - and not even my kid!

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plummymummy · 06/05/2006 23:18

I am still in shock. Today I took ds (almost 2)to the park. As we walked along the pavement I felt something prod me in the back. I turned around and saw a small boy on a bicycle. I stared at him and was about to turn around again when he said "Next time, let me pass" . I was stunned. The audacity! I found myself arguing with him. I said "If you want to pass you need to say excuse me" He retorts back "You should watch where you're going" I then resist the urge to say "I was, you weren't" and instead tell him to learn some manners! Anyway this boy's parents were there the whole time (I realised afterwards)and did not say a word. I would be so angry if my child spoke to someone like this - I'd definitely have to pull him up on it. Apart from the futility of trying to argue with a 6 yr old, what do others think?

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kid · 06/05/2006 23:22

sounds like his parents need to learn some manners too if you ask me. If one of my children are rude (or appear rude to me) I would appolgise on their behalf and then speak to them. Sadly kids learn from their parents so its no wonder he had no manners.

bubble99 · 06/05/2006 23:27

I'm sure his parents will be happy as long as he is 'successful.' This is a major gripe of mine so excuse the rant. He'll go through life being an arrogant and socially inept little git, no doubt, but as long as he ends up university educated and earning a fortune they'll feel they've done well. The world is getting ruder and people more selfish and anti-social by the day, IMO.

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plummymummy · 06/05/2006 23:28

I know, that's what dh said. That was the worst thing for me, the fact that they saw what was happening and didn't intervene. DH said in his opinion such a young child would have to learn such behaviour - it wouldn't have come from nowhere ISWIM.

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plummymummy · 06/05/2006 23:32

Trying not to have an inverse snobbery here but they seemed quite upper middle class and the way the dad looked at my dh, I got the impression they thought we were common!

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kid · 06/05/2006 23:33

I have met many children like that at DC's school unfortunately. Manners cost nothing so as far as I'm concerned, there is no excuse for such behaviour.

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plummymummy · 06/05/2006 23:39

Well I'm pleased that so far I haven't been told off for arguing with a six yr old (he could've been younger as he was very small, I just assumed he couldn't be younger based on his speech).

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bubble99 · 06/05/2006 23:42

Not at all plummymummy. I wish more people would challenge rude behaviour, whatever the age.

christie1 · 07/05/2006 01:43

I think you were right to challenge his rude behavoir even if his parents must think the sun shines out of his you know where to permit that kind of talk to another person. If enough people speak up to the little tyrant, he may learn appropriate social behavoir, even if his parents have failed him by not teaching him manners. I remember a boy right in front of me saying to my daughter as we stood in line for an event, "what the **%&& are you staring at?". I told him not to speak to her like that and he starts to yell at me "well, god gave a mouth and I am going to use it". I said "yeah, well God gave me a mouth too, and I know how to use it". He stared at me and I stared right back at him. (I honestly was bracing myself in case he hit me/had the daughter behind me and was looking around for assistance if needed. This kid was a bully) He then looked away and left us alone. Sad way for a kid to go through life though.

cataloguequeen · 07/05/2006 01:58

God plummy, what a rude little arse!!! with rude arse parents too!! you were definately right to deal with him!!

Tortington · 07/05/2006 02:29

you shudda knocked the little shit off his bike then stamped on his bell

wanderingstar · 07/05/2006 09:12

If he displays that sort of "mini alpha male" behaviour at school, sooner or later he's not going to be too popular.

cheesecake · 07/05/2006 12:24

If mine did that (not that he would ) I would expect the other adult to say some thing to him . I always tell my mates to not stand any nonsence from him because I have the therory that if I am the only one to tell him off boy was he in for a shock when he started school . So far irs worked out ok ,he is not the politest kid to me but to others he is fine . So basically this kid was a brat . LOL

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plummymummy · 07/05/2006 17:25

That's what I thought. He had stabilisers on his bike so I reckon he was even younger than 6. Just after this happened he fell off his bike and his dad said "Oh I do wish you would look where you're going" (not that he bumped into anyone this time you understand!)and brat replies "I told you there was something wrong with my chain but you didn't listen"!! Dad said nothing but mum went to comfort him. Nuff said.

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