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Nursery age?

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Ellen7 · 07/03/2013 14:29

Hi all just asking at what age if you were a SAHM did you start to send your dc to nursery? Unsure when to start my dd (19 months), think it would be nice for her now she wants to play with other chikdren and i find those mother toddler groups hut and miss. Everyone keeps asking me but others think she's too young and as a SAHM they think it's pointless for me to take her as I'm at home. What did you do?

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MrsBucketxx · 07/03/2013 14:32

I do take mine to toddler groups but ds is only going now at three for the free 15 hours,

I couldn't afford to send mine before that.

MrsBucketxx · 07/03/2013 14:33

maybe try another group, I do think its important that they mix with other children.

I have been to some trully shocking ones.

ilovepowerhoop · 07/03/2013 14:37

mine didnt start until they got their free hours at age 3

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neolara · 07/03/2013 14:38

I sent mine at just turned 3. At that age they were happy to separate and needed something more than they could get at baby groups. Prior to that, I felt they got all the socialisation they needed at toddler groups. Until they are 2 1/2 or 3 they pretty much play alongside others anyway. It's only around 3 that they start to genuinely play with other children.

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Ellen7 · 07/03/2013 14:43

There are a couple decent groups on certain days I shall still take her to. I checked out a nursery the other day with the intention of taking her a few hours a couple times a week when there were no groups as she needs constant entertaining now. I suppose being able to take her causes this dilemma lol. Wasn't sure if I feel a bit guilty taking her being a SAHM and being her age, or it's an advantage for her to be without me a little while.

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Tailtwister · 07/03/2013 19:26

I don't think there's a real need for her to be away from you at under 2. However, I know plenty of SAHM's who do use nurseries/childminders before the age of 3, mostly to get a bit of time to themselves and get stuff done around the house. I agree with neolara that there seems to be a change which happens around 3 where they start to get something out of playing with other children. I noticed that with DS1, although he was at nursery 2 days per week purely from a childcare point of view so I could work.

If I were you I would wait until you get the 15 funded hours at age 3, unless you really need the time for your own needs (and if so, there's nothing wrong with that!). I don't think there's much benefit in your DD going before that tbh.

MamaBlue4 · 07/03/2013 20:50

My dd attends Creche twice a week because sometimes in my case, as I stay with her, it's nice to talk to other mom's while she interacts and plays with others. I'll be leaving her without me next week for the first time, and honestly, I'll be glad for the little peace.

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Ellen7 · 07/03/2013 21:08

My OH thinks it will just give me a bit of time to myself as I have no family or friends that's really capable of looking after her for a couple hours to give me a little break, so I'm buying into that lol. know a few people I spoke to did the same with their children but of course they are all different. I see what you mean tailtwister about not actually needing it but I do struggle to keep her occupied sometimes and maybe if she does seem ok there then it can do no harm. I was thinking of starting slowly as suggested by the nursery by staying with her and gradually leaving for a period of time. I suppose at the end of the day I can try it and if it doesn't work out I can take her out and leave it til she's older :-)

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WillSingForCake · 07/03/2013 22:04

I'm a SAHM & my 18 month old DD goes to nursery 2 mornings a week. It's working out well - she gets to play with other children and does loads of fun activities, and I enjoy my free time too!

WhirlingOut · 09/03/2013 20:47

I'm a SAHM and my 15 month old has been going to nursery two afternoons a week since she was 11 months. I've started a degree, so it's to help me study but I don't regret it at all. She's come along loads socially since she's been going. Also I don't have family close by so haven't ever really left her alone, so this gives her time to get used to other people without me being there. She loves it and its lovely to hear what she's been doing when I'm not there, the nursery give a very comprehensive run down of what she's been up to.

MrsDimples · 10/03/2013 00:14

I'm a SAHM Mum, my DD starts next week, she was three in June.

We do a mix of toddler groups, one regularly, others as & when. Trips to soft play, park, swimming. I try and have access at home to the type of stuff she would at nursery / preschool, drawing, craft, messy play and developmentally aiding toys.

I feel she has changed in the last few months & is ready for a nursery / preschool environment.

I don't feel she has missed out by not attending before.

I know others SAHM who out their child in fairly young, one ish, to have time to themselves / housework / stop child being clingy. Some carried one, some stopped.

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Ellen7 · 11/03/2013 16:57

Well I took dd for a trial session at nursery this afternoon and it seemed to me it's a question as to how familiar she gets with the staff looking after her as to how comfortable she'll find it. Once she's used to the people and rooms I think it'll be like anyone else babysitting for a bit. I've been invited to more sessions where I can stay with her then leave for a bit for however long it takes til she gets familiar there which all seems positive and clearly for some you it's all been a good thing.

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