someone please help!!

[marmon]

My ds is 9 and he is just having the most awful mood swings at the moment, I know hes a Gemini but its insane.
One minute hes fine but if he cant have his own way he flips and the worst thing he cant see he does anything wrong, infact he turns it round and makes it your fault!
Tonight he was outside playing football with his dad and when I called them in for tea he deliberately kicked the ball next door as he wanted to carry on playing. So my dh told him off and he started answering back, which then resulted in my dh dismantling the PS3 which he loves and banning him for the week.
My dh is out at the moment and my ds keeps cuddling me and saying "I cant wait to go on the playstation" and what feels like manipulation.
Thats just one example but these outbursts are becoming daily. Is anyone else experiencing this? Im actually ignoring his moods more, as last week when I was in the depths of Pmt I did react and this seems to add fuel to his roaring fire.
Could it be hormonal? He 10 in june. Any advice or just hand holding will be greatly appreciated. X

Serious manipulation there! Hopefully it's just a phase. Best advice I can give is be consistent. He's been banned from the playstation for a week, stick to it. It's important to remember to reward the good behaviour as well. I found with my dd that rewarding the good behaviour (well done for playing nicely, aren't you a good girl?) had a much better effect than shouting at her for misbehaving and putting her in a time out. I still put her in time outs and ban the TV, but I explain calmly why after she's calmed down. The tantrums are decreasing in frequency & time but she'll still throw me a curve ball! Just remain calm and remember they copy our behaviour, so if we handle the situation calmly hopefully they will too. Good luck! xx

There's a Pre-teen board with loads of threads about this sort of behaviour from 10 yo - very informative!

I hope its a phase or ive got problems. He does get rewarded and alot of attention, I wonder if ive over done it over the years and just simply spoilt him! Thanks for the advice.

I hope its a phase or ive got problems. He does get rewarded and alot of attention, I wonder if ive over done it over the years and just simply spoilt him! Thanks for the advice.

I have a 9 year old who for he past year or so has been ho and cold. I think it's the hormones, toal pre teen stuff.

I wouldn't give in to his pleas for the PS either, he needs to know not to push boundaries, which he did with the football.

Thanks grants I will check it out and hopefully not feel such a failure!