When did you want no. 2?

[ivanapoo]

Just curious really - just had my first and can't imagine having another. Both for emotional and practical reasons. But I know v few people who only have one child out of choice.

About a week after dc2 was born

After I had DD1 I simply couldn't imagine having another baby, I really did think it was likely we would stop at one. Not helped by awful traumatic birth putting me off. She was a relatively easy baby and slept well etc, but the way my life was turned upside down was a complete shock. Also, I adored her and it was enough somehow. Around her first birthday I started to think about having another and was pregnant again soon after that when she was 14 months or so. As soon as I held DD2 in my arms I knew we would be having more, I was just so happy to have another baby and it hit me how your capacity for love is endless and I decided then and there that I wanted 2 more children! However after no. 3 I was rather felled by exhaustion and changed my mind on the idea of baby no. 4, so three it is and three it will stay!

DS took a while to get here & I don't fancy that stress again so he's an only. We're happy with the decision. Lots of friends having or trying for 2nds as their firsts are 2-3 years old.

I always wanted 3. Then I had my first and he was so wonderful I decided 2 would be enough.

I am 12w pregnant with no 2 and we will have a 2 year, 4 month age gap.

Never had an urge to have a second child and very nearly stopped at one, but we went to have DS 2 when ds1 was 18 months old and it's absolutely the best decision we ever made.
Just to watch them play and interact together, have their own little jokes etc melts my heart. Nothing wrong with having one, but in our case two children has taught them that neither is the centre of our universe and they their own very special relationship.
It was very hard though when they were both under 3, but am so so glad we had two children.