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Leaving baby for the weekend

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TravelFiend · 28/04/2006 14:42

I have the chance to go away for the weekend but hesitate to leave my 19 month DD. Is this silly on my part? My DH would look after her properly, but I´m sure my absence would upset her. So far we´ve never been apart more than about 5 hours and she has no other caregivers. What do you think?

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jamsam · 28/04/2006 14:45

gogogogogogogogo and go...:)

bluejelly · 28/04/2006 14:50

I second that. You're leaving her with her dad, not the milkman!

savidgerl · 28/04/2006 14:50

You will miss her but it will give your DH a chance to have some proper daddy/daughter time.

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kama · 28/04/2006 14:54

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throckenholt · 28/04/2006 14:56

great opportunity for everyone - you to have some time off, and DD and DH to have some time together without you around.

Go for it Smile

morningpaper · 28/04/2006 14:57

You will probably miss her more than she misses you

Olihan · 28/04/2006 15:22

My in laws offered to look after my DS for the weekend when I was heavily pregnant with DD and needed a rest. He was about the same age as your DD. I cried buckets after dropping him off and he didn't shed a tear!! I don't think he actually noticed. Smile

She'll be with her dad - they'll have a great time.........GO GO GO.

Lilliput · 28/04/2006 15:44

Go for it! I am having a weekend in London without kids at the end of May. Mine are 3.5yo and 15 months, they will be with grandparents when dh isn't at work. It was my idea and I can't wait. I will be a little anxious though, it's just a instictive mummy thing. I have left them before so I recognise the symtoms. Grin

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TravelFiend · 28/04/2006 18:13

Oh gosh, thought you would all tell me to go... But the reason I worry is that when DD is out with DH, all I can here (echoing down the road) is Mummy Mummy Mummy!!! My husband sometimes comes home embarrassed because it draws so much attention. Is 19 months really old enough to be "abandoned"? It´s just gut instinct tells me she´s too young. : (

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TravelFiend · 28/04/2006 18:14

hear

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Bellie · 28/04/2006 18:24

go go go - I just left dd (18 months) for the first time with grandparents for a weekend with dh - the first time I have been away from her for more than 6 hours - she didn't even cry just waved bye bye mummy when I left and apparently didn't even ask about me!
The welcome home was wonderful though and I do feel much more relaxed and know now that I needed a break so please go!

Laura032004 · 28/04/2006 19:36

TravelFiend - it might be different if you leave her at home with DH when you go, rather than her being taken away from you to go out. Can't talk as I haven't yet left DS... 25m!

beckybrastraps · 28/04/2006 19:39

If you do go, it will probably boost her relationship with her dad to the point where you don't get the pitiful screams when he takes her out. That must be pretty hard for him! And you get a weekend away. Result all round I say.

unpaidcleaner · 28/04/2006 19:40

GO !! while you can!! it gets much harder when they're older!! when i see how quickly my step-granddaughter's tears disappear within 2 minutes of my stepdaughter leaving her it makes me realise what a fool i was not to leave my baby more often 'in case she missed me'! Rubbish!

threebob · 28/04/2006 19:54

Would your dh go away and leave her with you?

You are leaving her at home with dad, and you will go out (which I am presuming you have done before) and then you will come back - the gap between these too will just be slightly longer.

anniebear · 28/04/2006 20:47

go and enjoy!!!!

paddingtonbear1 · 28/04/2006 22:46

I'd say go, definitely. We just left our DD with my in-laws for the weekend while we stayed in London (I was running the FLM). She's a bit older (2.8 yr) but we'd never left her for that long before. It was fine, both she and my in-laws had a great time! When we got back dd said 'hello' and then went back to her dvd!!

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TravelFiend · 29/04/2006 18:12

Ok, some v good points made here... I am resolved to go, purely in the interests of daddy-baby bonding.. A-hem..

Unpaidcleaner, why does it get MORE difficult as they get older? I´d thought it would be easier!

Thanks all!

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sugarfree · 29/04/2006 18:21

It ALL gets much harder as they get older.

PS.Enjoy your time off.Smile

worrypot · 29/04/2006 20:35

Had same dilemma a few weeks ago and the wise and wonderful MNetters persuaded me to have a weekend in Spain while DH did the daddy thing with DD. They had a fab time. I did too, though I missed her of course Smile. GO GO GO! you will all benefit from it.

cece · 29/04/2006 20:37

You should definitely GOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

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threebob · 30/04/2006 20:17

And it's true, my ds has no idea about whether we left him at nursery for a whole day or a half day and he's 3.

Also my DH goes to work for quite a few hours each day and then doesn't at weekends.

His beloved Grandparents leave him 3 times a year and don't come back for months and he still loves them when they come back.

My ds hasn't got an imaginary friend yet - but he does talk at length about his "job", so just be honest that you are going away.

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