Wish i could split myself in half

[ChangeMyHappy]

Have 2 beautiful dds.

An 8 week old who will only settle/sleep on me, and wakes up if anyone else (even dh) takes over. Lasts at best 5 minutes before crying, escalating to screaming until I take her back.

Also a feisty, independent nearly 4 year old, who has been amazing with her new sister. We've had a few strops that she wants things back how they used to be, ie mummy at her beck and call but mostly she's ok, and knows that this dependent stage will settle down in time.

So today, she has a temperature and feels awful, and desperately wants me to settle her and cuddle her to sleep, but I can't. I tried to, and dh managed to keep dd2 quiet for a few minutes, but she just cranked up again. I said I'd have to go in a minute and dh would come up to be with her, but I didn't want to have to. When I said 'I hope dd2 learns to settle with dh soon' she just looked at me and said 'me too.'

I know I'm just whining, we're lucky that dh is here to share this and be there for her, but it's making me miserable and I needed to vent.

If you've got thus far-thanks for listening!

Bless you, how hard. I've had poorly ds (4yo) crying with earache at night while I was feeding dd (3 months) and dh was away. Ended up with them both on the sofa watching Thomas the Tank Engine movie with dd on my lap and ds snuggled next to me under his blankie with a bunch of soft toys. Really difficult but we managed and I put dd in her chair while I took him back to bed and ignored her crying for a few minutes. You have my sympathy, and hope it gets easier soon!

Completely know the feeling.

In fact am sat here MNing on our bed with my 4yo DC1 and 18mo DC2 asleep next to me.

DH wasn't home for bedtime and 4yo didn't want to be alone at bedtime whilst I settled DC1. So we all piled into bed.

So hard!

Thanks for not just telling me to get a grip

I'd hoped for a little more time before having to choose between them, but I guess that's (family) life!

Sympathy - today I had a screaming 4 m.o. who is ill with a bad cold needing to sleep (on my lap, fed to sleep - if I moved, he'd wake), and an overtired, still ill with a cold 3.2 y.o. who really needed his bedtime bf (impossible with DS2 on my lap).