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if you don't lke another parent one bit, what do you do if..

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bubblepop · 27/04/2006 18:40

they ask your child to go there for tea and you really do not want your child (5yr old) to go? how do you decline ? do you make excuses or just say outright no way!!

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panicpants · 27/04/2006 18:40

Make an excuse, no need to burn bridges straight away!

Twiglett · 27/04/2006 18:45

make an excuse .. but how do you know you don't like the parent? maybe you could get to know them

also depends how your child feels about the other child .. if they're good buddies it would be unfair to miss out on a playdate because you don't like parent ... unless you don't like them for a child-care related reason

beckybrastraps · 27/04/2006 18:52

It would depend on why I didn't like them.

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bubblepop · 28/04/2006 18:28

well put it this way, their two year old uses words like 'sh*t head'!! and mum enjoyed telling everyone the story on the playground at the top of her voice! cringe....i said to her ' i wonder where she gets it from?'

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anniebear · 28/04/2006 20:49

Oh dear!!!!!!

Sugarmag · 29/04/2006 09:27

This is my problem too! (\link{http://mumsnet.com/Talk?topicid=67&threadid=168609&stamp=060429083203\inappropriate playdates}) How do you say no without burning bridges?

Riddo · 29/04/2006 10:05

I make an excuse.

If the invitation keeps coming then I have the child in my house where I am quite happy to say "We don't use words like that in this house" or something similar.

I did have an issue with a mother when her child told her off in her house for saying "Oh my God" to me on the phone. She was quite annoyed but we talked it through and she makes an effort not to say it my house now. I know I sound really judgemental but I think it's reasonable to expect your beliefs/ house rules to be respected in your own home.

Sorry I've gone a bit off the topic.

QE · 29/04/2006 10:22

If I wasn't keen on the other parent then I would invite the child to play at my house where I could keep an eye on what was going on and I would know my rules would be adhered to. If the kids are at someone elses house and you don't know or like the way the parent is, then you don't know what bad habits your child is picking up. At your own house you can pick up on and correct any undesirable behaviour.

The other thing to do is invite the parent to stay for coffee and you can get to know them a bit better maybe?

threebob · 29/04/2006 10:25

I have a friend who uses terrible language in front of the skills and thinks it's hilarious when her children copy her. I don't mix with her when I've got ds with me, and she's changed her nursery day so thankfully he doesn't see them there either.

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