I feel like a bad parent for having lay-ins everyday

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My daughter is 3 months old and she is my only child. She will sleep in every morning until about 10.30am and I am getting up at this time as well. Sometimes I will pop her dummy in her mouth and she will wake-up at 11am. Am I bad Mum for getting up this late? I suffer from a bit of chronic fatigue and can get up early if I have a serious reason to but I really have to drag myself. My daughter falls asleep about midnight and I take about an hour to fall asleep. It's just that most Mums I know seem to be up super early.

Take it while you can

Salut

CrapBag and OP. I didn't read it properly.
I read it as 'I have a bit of fatigue'. Sorry.

I don't understand why you feel guilty then OP. But, get as much rest as you can, while you can.

I did similar with DS, who was (and still is) a night owl but would have a morning nap after breakfast. Do what works for you at the moment. It won't last for ever, though

Thats ok WowOoo.

Shame MerylStrop hasn't read my post. Yes it does sound 'lovely'

I do this! It didn't occur to me to feel bad. DD goes to bed at 11pm and sleeps till 6/7am. Sometimes she feeds, sometimes she just cuddles in. We co-sleep from then till she wakes - anything from 8am till 11am.

I thought you were supposed to sleep when the baby sleeps!

DD doesn't nap so it's my only chance for sleep. She is 21 weeks.

I did this with DC1. Only thing which I struggled with was that, when I got up at 10.30, it seemed a bit late for breakfast so I'd wait until lunchtime before I ate which would be about 16 hours since I had supper during which time I may have fed DC1 4 or 5 times. So I got DP to bring me a cup of tea & a bowl of cereal when he went to work at 8.00, I ate that, went back to sleep for a couple of hours & then got up with DC1 did.

If it suits you, do it. I think the crucial thing to do with a young baby - and even more crucial if you have chronic fatigue - is to get as much sleep as possible.

I did this with my DD1, and I didn't have chronic fatigue; she was a night owl and slept in, so I took advantage of it! DD2 was a 5am waker though. Most mums seem to get up early because their kids do, I expect.

That's fine as she isn't going to bed till midnight. However, she will start going earlier and then she will get up earlier too. So when you does this you need to start going to bed a bit earlier too or you will struggle with the early mornings. I remember this stage too and even though it sounds great you don't actually get your evening to yourself which I found quite hard going.

I do the same and my daughter is now 9 months old. I make the most of it as I know if I have another child in the future I will not be able to do it!!

I slept that late everyday for the first months of dd1's life. DH was always able to get DSD up and off to school, so I saw it as a chance to catch up on sleep as she was always awake during the night. Enjoy it while you can! I couldn't do it when I had dd2 as DH's work shifts changed and I had to get up to take dd1 to nursery.