screaming faced brat, free to good home actually any home!!

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I know I'm going to get torn apart but my 6yo DS is driving me to tears yet a-fucking-gain and I really do feel like I can't cope anymore :(

Every night for 3 Weeks he screams and screams, throws mega tantrums asking fire a drink so we give him water which he 'spills' every single bloody night (by spill I mean throw we here the thud) so he screams for more and more and more.

We have started a system where his toys are removed one by one so books, toys, Teddies and DS are taken away and he has to behave for all of the next 2 days to earn the first back then everyday afterwards to earn one per day the rest.

This is fine until he gets them back and we have to start all over again the next day.

I really am at my wits end and we don't know what to do anymore I an actually starting to really dislike my own child

Oh dear

Have you spoken to school/HV about his behaviour?

What is he like at school? An angel I bet!

I would say that he is most definitely trying to control you by using this behaviour. Has anything changed recently?

The last time I was at my wits end I stormed in bedroom with black bags and bagged ALL of his toys. He had a week to earn them back (a bag at a time) and it did shock him enough to be good.

Now I do where I refuse to shout, instead of shouting I say do you want me to go to your bedroom, the next time I want to shout I go and pick a toy and put it on the fridge he has till the end of the day to earn it back or it goes in the bin. It stops me screaming at him and loosing my temper.

Totally get where your coming from with disliking your dc because of their behaviour

You need start ignoring his negative behaviour. By giving him a drink/attention etc you are reinforcing his screaming. If he gets attention for screaming, he will carry on doing it... Give him a drink in advance of bedtime, so he doesn't need to ask for one.
It's hard at the beginning, but once he learns that throwing a tantrum doesn't work he will stop doing it.
Good luck!

So glad its not just me! I really do feel horrid thinking about my child this way but he is driving DP and I to the brink.

We have spoken to the school and whilst he has never been the most observant child his behaviour isn't naughty at school just more a fact of not listening our taking in what he's being asked to do.

I started a new job in August which has meant him being at after school club getting home at 5.30 each night with DP and me getting home at 6 at the earliest but this can't be changed as I really can't afford (nor do I want to if I'm honest) to give up work again. Although we have spoken to him about this many times and he says he likes it.

When I started work I also found out I was pregnant (now 34 Weeks) which he was told of at the start and we have kept him involved and explained what is going to happen etc so although this is a major thing I can't figure out if its an issue as again he seems really pleased about it.

With children, what they say and how they act don't always correlate. The wee buggers always confuse us huh?

It might be worth sitting him down, at a calm time, maybe over the weekend. And just asking him if there is anything which he isn't liking at the moment. Also explain to him how his behaviour is making you feel. He is old enough now to be able to listen and understand that.

You sound very stressed- could I suggest both you and your DP take half a day's leave and go out for a late lunch / long walk/ afternoon playing at something while he's at school so you get time together without him being the focus/ threat in the background!

Drink with a lid?

Also you need to find things about your son that you like. Have some fun with him.

What about a reward chart? Or a small reward in the morning for going to bed nicely and sleeping through?

Also is he exhausted? Ill? Unhappy at school?