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clingy macclingy from cling street!!

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oops · 24/04/2006 15:06

Just about says it all.
ds2 8.5months is a limpit...doing my head in at times.
as soon as he sees me he starts wimpering and whining and holding his arms out for me.
he palys on the floor but is such a mardy that any little thing going wrong for him and his hands shoot out for me..
he won't even sit in his high chair to eat atm if i am there, he just cries for me.

ahggggg
tell me when it will stop and what i can do to help.
ds1 was a bit too self centred/sufficient at this age- it worried me a bit, but wow ds2 is one hell of a clingy one.

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oops · 24/04/2006 15:23

i know it isn't an exciting thread, but somebody must have some experience/advice....pleeeeze Smile

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TwiglettTheWereHedgehog · 24/04/2006 15:24

separation anxiety

ride it out

it'll take a couple of weeks

TwiglettTheWereHedgehog · 24/04/2006 15:24

I think at 8 months they realise they aren't actually a part of you but a separate entity .. scary

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oops · 24/04/2006 15:26

oh, i am afraid of you!! Smile

he's been like this for about 3 weeks now- we've all been ill so it has been tough going just now

should i pick him up or distract do you think

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Mistymoo · 24/04/2006 15:26

My dd used to be like that. I don't think I did anything in particular but now she is fine and more of a daddy's girl and a huge gran's girl when she is around.

Sorry, no advice but they generally grow out of it.

bogwobbit · 24/04/2006 15:26

You have my sympathy oops.
I'm sure I read somewhere (baby book yonks ago, when I read that sort of thing perhaps) that 8 months is a notoriously 'clingy' age. So, with a bit of luck 'it's just a phase' that he'll grow out of soon.

controlfreaky · 24/04/2006 15:27

all can say is like all parenting dilemmas (?) it will pass! its all just a phase / stage. stay v calm. take many deep breaths. waves of irritation / frustration will only make the clingiest clinger in clingsville, clingy county even..... clingier.

is he poorly perhaps or is this going on too long for that excuse?

Bugmum · 24/04/2006 15:28

Happened a bit later for me, but now at nearly 15 months, DS is pretty independent (though still lovely and cuddly).

I tried distraction. That is, I gave a hug and attention, then did, say, a silly dance or whatever so I was interacting but not being clung to. Blush I think it helped a bit, but it's a stage that doesn't last. Someone I know's DD used to cling on to her legs when her mother was trying to walk across the room (again, a bit older than your baby), and now barely glances at her mum at mother and toddler.

hoxtonchick · 24/04/2006 15:28

hi ooops, my dd has been much more clingy than ds ever was. she's 10 months now, properly crawling for a few weeks, & so much better. hope the same is true for you!

controlfreaky · 24/04/2006 15:29

sorry read original post as aged 2.8. at his age is v v def a phase, a normal one. deep breath, "ommmm".

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oops · 24/04/2006 15:31

can i disguise myself so he doesn't know it is me??
would that help or seriously f him up in later life?? Smile
i jsut seem to have this baby attatched to me all the time and it is not easy
but i suppose it s aphase..thanks!

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supakids · 24/04/2006 15:31

my ds was like this around the 9m to 15m age. More you push away the more they get clingy. I sought advice from HV embrace his advances no matter what and the phase will pass. It did.

fastasleep · 24/04/2006 15:32

Mine's being doing this for months and is getting gradually worse... it does my head in to be followed around the house by this insistant little voice 'cuggly cuggly cuggly CUGGLY'

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAARGH it's because he has little sister envy (but she's 6 and a bit months old now and it's getting worse!)

I feel your pain!!

Mine's 2.2 for gods sake lol! Daft article.

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oops · 24/04/2006 15:33

noo- not 9m to 15months- did you go mad???

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fastasleep · 24/04/2006 15:35

(7 months to .....? for me.. !!)

supakids · 24/04/2006 15:36

very nearly, it was a relief to know it would come to an end.

mazzystar · 24/04/2006 15:36

they get over it.

can he crawl yet? i think as soon as they get mobile and have the option of following you it gets a bit better.

in one of the gazillion unnecessary parenting books i read it said that you can help them get the idea of "object permanence" - learning that things exist even when they can't see them - by playing hiding games, peekaboo etc. could also try explaining where you are going and why and that you will be back.

if all else fails get a hip seat.

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oops · 24/04/2006 15:43

not quite crawling, best thing in the world is holding mummy's hand and standing up and holding a something else with the other hand- could do it all day- well he could.
I, of course have to do boring housework, entertain ds1 and go to toilet..doesn't always make ds2 very happy that Smile

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