DC1 is nine weeks old. We're not following any particular routine or parenting style (though if pushed I would identify most closely with the attachment lot). We're generally getting on fine ? although she has a tendency to get overstimulated/overtired she tends to nap quite well in sling during the day. In the evening we normally put her down in her bednest (co-sleeper crib) at around 7.30-8.30. More times than not, she'll settle herself quite calmly ? occasionally crying for us if her dummy's fallen out/ the white noise app has switched itself off. Then I go to bed (partner still on sofa) at around 11.00pm/midnight.
The Q is regarding night feeds. Baby is EBF. She wakes at (around) 2.30 am and again at 5.00 am pretty much like clockwork. I know she's little and TBH have no expectations about her ?sleeping through? at any particular age.
The thing is that if we don't wake her she'll usually sleep from c8.00 pm to 2.30 am without a whimper (so we know all things being equal she is capable of doing six+ hours). I'd really like those six hours to be from (say) midnight to 6.00 am. Or if she needs it I'd totally settle for one feed between those hours at whatever time suited her best, but two seems excessive in the circs! I'd just like a bit more unbroken sleep.
The only thing I've tried is dreamfeeding her when I go to bed (11-12 ish) but it makes no difference! I don't understand it. Even if she has a decent feed then, she will still wake at 2.30 am. I've tried lots of times, but I assume she's just wired to wake when she does, or there's something in my night milk that she's keen on.
(If it's relevant, I normally put her back in the nest after the 2.30 feed, and let her stay in with me after the 5.00am feed ? usually because the room is cold by then.)
Does anyone have any tips how I might gently push her to drop at least one of the feeds between 12-6 am? I'd be ever so grateful! Thank very much.