at my wits end

[VegasBride]

I have a five week old who is allergic to his cot and to get some sleep we have resorted. to co sleeping. to add insult to injury my 2 year old who slept 8-6 will now not sleep in bed unless me or dh joins him in the middle of night we had moved him from cot bed to bed and while he can't get out he will not go back to bed on his own. new baby is waking every three hours but I don't want to co sleep and wonder which sleep issue to tackle first shoul I put toddler back in cot bed as he can be left in there and will go back to sleep after sustained crying cant be helped. any bright ideas

I'd tackle dc1 first. Although you don't want to co sleep long term, at the moment it seems to be giving you more sleep and it is normal for babies to want to be with you. I never planned to sleep with my DC either, but it was the only way for us, any other way and the whole house had less sleep. Have a look at this. If you do want him in the cot though, could you put it by your bed with the side off? He would still be close but you could relax a little?

There are some tips for dc1 here

thanks very much for the links think the night waking are a result of new sibling think we will have to get ds 1 sleeping through before we tackle new bubs husband just gone back to working shifts so day 1 of difficulties thanks for advice

It's so hard for the first few weeks isn't it. Can totally sympathise though as my DC2 was sleeping through before dc1. Dc1 did have a couple of medical problems though.

Will DH be working nights?

yes days and nights continental shifts ds 1 is high maintenance and no amount of excercise or naps during the day help think its back to the cot until his sleeping improves and letting him CIO deal with ds2 once that's fixed if ever. dd1 is difficult at the minute behaviour wise too not a pleasant child unless there is an audience. the joys

Have you tried him back in the cot bed? Do you think that's the key or is it new baby/toddler separation anxiety? Have you tried ncss for toddlers? Might have a few tips?

Know you are busy and tired but do you think this will help with the separation anxiety, if it is that?