What on earth do you do when (naughty step)

[chezziejo]

When the child refuses point blank to apologise after being put there?

I'm at a loss now

According to Supernanny they sit their until they do. So if it is all day - then it is all day. Worth a try.

start the timer again and they sit there for however many minutes and then try again for an apology, and repeat until they apologise!

How old?

He's 2.6 and didn't want leave him there for more than his two mins. I'm sure he knows what sorry is as he says it to the dog when he accidentally on purpose stands on his paws. But not sure how much as 2.6 is still quite little iyswim. He dosnt go on much as I pick my battles but he got me this time as he kept slamming the door. Gave warning and followed it through then he got me with that one and I didn't know what to do anyway after hugs and a kiss alls well but envisaged him being on their hours if he's inherited my stubborn streak

What about moving him away from the door so he can't slam it again? So distract?

Good point and would normally but had a hungry screaming eight week old as well and it was one of those moments when later you think well could have done that better. I suppose I lost control of situation and will live and learn. Feeling like worst mum in the world again now don't think il ever get the hang of this parenting lark.

I use '1,2,3 magic' (well, I've read it anyway!). Using their 'time out', which can be a step or whatever, you don't ask for an apology afterwards. Takes all the emotion out of it and I'm finding it quite effective. They never mean that they're sorry anyway!

Just a big power struggle if you 'make' them say it, isn't it?

Yes it is a struggle! You've got a newborn. Lower your expectations a bit and do what you need to to get through the day smoothly.

My ds was 2.4 when dd arrived and we had many hairy moments. A lot of tears and shouting from me but it is easier now dd is 1. Take it easy on your ds - he wants your attention and it doesn't matter if it's positive or negative.

That made me laugh, thank you. Got my head a bit straighter now. To be fair he's usually a good little lad and has only ever gone on there for hitting, which he hasn't done in a while. He's pretty good with his sister generally after a shaky start but he rocks her and likes to help feed and he gets loads of hugs and attention. I guess hindsight is a wonderful thing and tiredness all round was the problem rather than a sodding minor incident of a two year old doing what two year olds do best ( mayhem). I didnt force an apology out of him, just the hug and kiss and moved on. Like I say live and learn.

Even trickier when your DS actually wants to be given a time out.
Me: "DS, this is your last warning. Or do you want me to give you a time out?"
DS: "Yes." [goes and puts himself there]

WTF?

He's 2.2.

Hahaha matana
DSD (5) spent 25 minutes on naughty step the other day as she was sulking too much to say sorry. It always comes down to being a battle of wills though doesn't it? So whether they mean sorry or not you're supposed to get them to say it...I think. It;s been a while since I watched supernanny!

I wouldn't insist on an apology from DD, who's 2.6. I've tried a couple of times but really it's just giving her a chance to wind me up further.

Great age, isn't it?

I don't ask for an apology after a time out. I used to hate being made to say sorry as a child for something I wasn't sorry for. I am not going to make dd say it unless she hurts someone or their things.
She's another who actively chooses to go and sit on the step sometimes!