DS is 3.5 and starting to really push us in relation to basic obedience. He's not too bad in terms of tantrums as such, but we want to move to a point where if we say, come and stand here, or lets get dressed, he says yes and does it, not runs the other way or turns it into a game where we have to pick him up and carry him. If he is really disobedient, hurts his sister etc we do have a naughty step type of thing going, but while it works in the textbook, supernanny way at the time, it doesn't prevent him from doing the same thing again later. It doesn't seem to be teaching him anything long term. I think what I am asking is:
- Are we being unrealistic, is he just too young to be obedient in that way?
- Can anyone recommend a book? - there are so many and I have been quite resistant to them up to now, I prefer to find our own way using common sense rather than signing up to a particular parenting philosophy, but I feel now (perhaps wrongly) that DS is at an age where if we get it wrong he will not prepared for school in September and it will have longer term effects (he does go to preschool every day and they have noticed it too).
Many thanks for any input
