Is this wrong?

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My DP just hurt my feelings a bit and want to know if he's in the wrong or am I? My 2 yo DD is a little bundle of fun and becoming quite affectionate to me and DP which I think is lovely. She wraps her arms around my neck when giving cuddles and likes to give me a big kiss then does a mwah sound followed by a giggle. She did it just a few minutes ago but DP said to me 'you shouldn't be encouraging her, it's a bit weird in my opinion'. I feel really hurt and uncomfortable by that as if i'm doing something wrong and unhappy he thinks that way. What do you think?

what?!?!? Some daysI cant get dd off from round my neck she is that overly affectionate. And its wonderful!!

what exactly does he think is odd?

tbh, id be scared of his answer. If he thinks its weird in a sexual way - well, that is a very very big problem of his.

He's the weird one. You are not doing anything wrong. I would give anything some days to go back, just for a few minutes, to the days when my children used to laugh at funny faces and climb up on my knee and smother me with slobbery kisses.

Was he abused as a child? or did somebody do something inappropriatewhen he was a child? because what you describe is innocent affection and IS healthy.

WTF? He thinks your daughter kissing you is a bit weird? Erm, right.

It is lovely and innocent. Ignore him.

I think he's just a tad jealous that she's a bit of a mummy's girl. He's brilliant with her and gives her pecks too when saying goodbye/goodnight etc. He just thinks that the kisses she gives me last too long! She likes to go mmmmmmmmwah! Thank you for your reply, isn't being a mummy the best?

Totally ignore him. He's talking out of his arse. Sounds like you have a lovely relationship with your child.

What part does he think is weird? I can sort of see how the 'mwah' sound might seem a bit strange from a 2 year old. (But only in the way that they all have their own little copied mannerisms at that age iyswim). However, if he thinks the kissing and cuddling itself shouldn't be encouraged, that is a very bizarre thing for a parent to think.

Dearie me. She's 2.

What is his problem?
Is he completely untactile then and were his family never affectionate?

I think he's jealous. Quite simply.

Well, he has since apologised! He just added that he would think it odd if he was like that with DD! He comes from a not-very-affectionate family. He can't ever recall his mum telling him she loved him. She clearly does but they're not a bunch for expressing their emotions. Anyway, i'm going to continue smothering DD with kisses and cuddles and enjoy it before she turns into a moody teenager I'll probably barely get a smile from Thank you for all your replies!

I think it's also very difficult these days for men not to worry about accusations being made against them with all the hype that is currently going on. I wonder if that might be in the back of his mind??

Since when as it been wrong to kiss your mum?!

Not wrong at all, it's lovely. It's a man thing - when my ds first started giving me smackers on the lips my dp said very similar. I told him not to be ridiculous, it's just sweet innocent child behaviour, and it isn't like he'll be wanting to do that when he's 15! He conceded my point and hasn't seemed to have any issue with it since, other than to comment that he seems to have competition!

You are definately right and he's not. He obviously has some issues with the showing of affection for whatever reason. If we can't show affection to our DCs at this age then when can we? You should tell him also (if it becomes more of an issue) that this kind of loving behavioiur has the effect of making children happier more secure and confident, that's if we needed an excuse for cuddles.

Tell him to imagine a child showing no affection, how horrible and weird would that be?