Help I'm being pathetic

[MogwaiTheGremlin]

I've been invited to a close friend's hen weekend (3 nights). Ds will be 7 months old by the time it comes around but I'm really struggling to come to terms with leaving him!
Dh is great with him and I know they'll be fine but I hate the thought of not being there when ds wakes up and not seeing him at all for 2 whole days
He is still ebf and although I'm aiming to move on to bottles by then it means dh hasn't been as hands on as some simply because I'm always feeding him.
The hen do is in London (where I live) so technically I could come home at some point but there are 3 other mums going and none of them have any issues being away from their dc.
I'm getting teary just at the thought of it and tbh I dont think I'd be able to relax/enjoy myself being away that long.
Should I 'man up' and go for the duration or just go for one night which I know I would enjoy and ensure im on good form for my friend the hen?
Thank you!

Your DS is still very young so don't beat yourself for not wanting to be away from him, it's perfectly natural. Three days is a hell of a long time to be away, I wouldn't want to do it either. Hen weekends don't suit everyone especially those with young children so you're not being unreasonable. I think one night is an ideal compromise. Just be honest with your friend, if she's a true friend she will understand and not have a problem. Tell her sooner rather than later and it will be a massive weight off your mind and you can look forward to it rather than dread it.

I'd just go for one night. And if it's not too far maybe you could also go meet them for brunch or whatever they are doing on the sunday too? You could even take ds with you. Don't feel guilty - just explain that it's difficult with his age and still breastfed, that is perfectly reasonable.

I'd go for one or two nights, you won't enjoy yourself for 3 it's too long! My dd is 8 months and I've got a hen do next fri morning till Sunday morning, I've decided to stay at home all day Friday and do bath timr and put her to bed etc then go at about 8pm, she will sleep through then so technically I'm only gone Saturday morning - Sunday morning

I'd be reluctant to be away from mine three nights and one of them is a teen

One night is a good compromise.

I'd go for one night too.

I wouldn't leave my youngest overnight yet and he is 18 months. Do what you are comfortable with

Go. It makes life easier in the long run ! Made a point of leaving both ours at 6 months.
So glad we did.

blimey - 3 nights is long! There is absolutely no way I would leave my 8 month old for more than 1 night.....particularly if BF. Three nights would be a nightmare - you would have to constantly express and she would need a huge amount of milk. Are the other mothers BF / have such young babies?

I went away for a night recently and it was very wierd! I was glad I did it (mine was 7 months at the time) - so I think you will have a great time for one night.

Who cares what other people do? You aren't comfortable with it - I think it would be v unusual to leave a 7 month old for 3 nights - and jesus...3 nights for a hen do?! totally unneccesary!

Just say you are still BF so can't do that long.

actually dont give a reason. just say you will do the 1 night and have a great time! Its nothing to do with BF really - it's just too long with a young baby and you wouldn't enjoy it.

Yes, you're likely to still be BF at 7m and three nights without would be a nightmare.

Thank you, am just going to go for one night as suggested. That way I will be able to enjoy it and I'm sure my friend will understand. I guess everyone is different and just because the other mums don't mind being away from their dc doesn't mean I have to. I'm just not comfortable with it yet but am sure I will get there eventually!