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How best to leave first-timer at nursery????

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Lafaminute · 11/01/2013 12:11

My almost 4 year old has never been looked after by anyone but me or dh or twice by my mother - that's just the way it has worked out. Next week he will start going to pre-school for two sessions in preparation for full-time next summer. We've often talked about it (he and I) and he's definitely ready from a social point of view but today when I described what will happen: we'll put your lunch on the shelf, you'll go into the classroom and your teachers will be there, and you'll be playing with the other boys & girls and mummy will say goodbye....He looked at me, smiled and said NO! I don't want you to leave me there. I didn't make much of that and changed the subject but my heart is in my boots. My older child went to the same pre-school and bawled every time. I would have to pry her little fingers from my legs and run - she was always happy when I came for her at home time but I dreaded every session. Eventually she went to a different school (not an option for ds) where the teachers were more proactive in getting the kids settled in and she has been fine ever since.
Have any of you any tips for avoiding the screaming and crying that I had with dd?? I feel that if day 1 (and 2 and 3!) go well then he'll be fine but that if he cries on day one then we're doomed for the rest of pre-school. Am sick at the thought of going through the same as I did with dd. Help!!

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ZuleikaD · 11/01/2013 13:35

DD started pre-school last term after being at home with me for three years, and although there were a few settling-in sessions and she'd seemed ok after a couple of weeks she started saying that she didn't want to go to school. I tried to make sure that I went in with her every day and got her settled with an activity and then gave her a kiss and a hug and said goodbye. However, her reluctance grew and grew until one day she had a screaming fit when I tried to leave and had to be peeled off me.

We talked about it later and it turned out that my 'goodbye' strategy was completely the wrong one. She hated the 'saying goodbye' part and it was that that she dreaded every day. She liked school and the teachers and the other children and always had fun. So we agreed that yes, goodbyes are horrible and the best thing to do is to make it as quick and simple as possible. So the next day I didn't go in with her or try to settle her, give her a hug or kiss or anything I just said "bye bye, see you later" at the door and she ran off. We've never looked back.

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