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One year old been screaming for an hour! HELP!

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SuperDuperTrooper · 10/01/2013 21:31

I got home from work early tonight and so my one year old DS got a brief glimpse of me before bedtime. He has been impossible to settle to bed and has been screaming for an hour. Everytime he nearly drops off he wakes crying again. I don't know what to do. It's as though he is too tired to sleep. Reluctant to take him out of his room. Cuddles, songs, kisses, shushing etc are to working. He is usually a great sleeper so this is a bit of a first and am lost. Any ideas please?

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SuperDuperTrooper · 10/01/2013 21:47

Oh well, looks like DH has the magic - again. Feel very very sad that I can never settle my own baby....

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BaldricksTurnip · 10/01/2013 21:49

Go and give him a cuddle? Maybe he's missed you.

VinegarDrinker · 10/01/2013 21:50

In situations like this when nothing seems to work I tend try calpol... But am no mother of the year!

Sympathies, it is really really tough. Especially when they settle for someone else.

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mathsconundrum · 10/01/2013 21:53

He might have an ear infection. It's more painful when you lie down.

mathsconundrum · 10/01/2013 21:54

Agree calpol.

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SuperDuperTrooper · 10/01/2013 21:58

DH got him to sleep. I feel useless....

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VinegarDrinker · 10/01/2013 22:02

We call it the jamjar effect in this house - one of you tears your hair out trying to do something (usually get DS to sleep!) then you swap over & the other one gets results... We try & reassure each other that it's like opening a jamjar, one person can do all the hard work loosening it then the other just does the last tiny bit.

Super cheesy but it helps a bit when you are feeling shit and rejected and useless at your 'job' of being a parent.

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SuperDuperTrooper · 11/01/2013 10:05

Thanks everyone. I like the jamjar analogy. In the throes of it I didn't consider calool but will do if it happens again. I just thought he might overtired but he might well have been in pain. Thanks again.

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valiumredhead · 11/01/2013 10:26

I would take him out of his room if it happens again, if he isn't settled within 20 mins at 1 yr old then I would presume he isn't tired, needs more cuddles, is in pain, teething, going down with something, And hour is too long imo.

Also he might just have wanted a cuddle with you as he saw you, I think it's a bit much to expect a child not to want 5 mins with its mum after glimpsing you. He might have been roaring in outrage!

Iggly · 11/01/2013 11:41

I'd have given him a cuddle and sang to him to calm him down.

You're not useless. He was after you and realised how much he'd missed you hence the tears and trauma. Mine do that.

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SuperDuperTrooper · 11/01/2013 20:10

You're right he probably was shouting with outrage. You have made me realise I should have spent a little bit more time with him before expecting him to settle. I did go into his room and give him a kiss and cuddle but he was in his cot the whole time. I then helped lie him down and expected him to sleep! Unrealistic I now realise. Next time I will do things VERY differently. A sit on my knee and a bedtime book seems like a good plan for the future. Thanks all!

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valiumredhead · 12/01/2013 11:14

Don't fret OP, hindsight is a fantastic thing!

BJZebra · 28/01/2013 00:32

DP always seems to settle DD to sleep when I can't. We think it's because his body temperature is much warmer than mine so he's more comfortable to fall asleep on. Makes me feel a bit redundant at times but then I'm just glad DD gets to sleep at last

Tolly81 · 28/01/2013 04:06

Don't feel bad it's just a form of separation anxiety. My DD absolutely sobs whenever she sees me if I've been away, even if she was fine in my absence - so every time I pick her up from nursery I have to sit there soothing her before I can even get her into her car seat! I'd been out all morning yesterday and dd was at PILS with DH perfectly happy eating her dinner then I walk in and bursts into tears! Donug story time is a good plan next time if you're back in time, he just wants reassurance that everything is normal and you aren't about to leave again.

AbbyCat · 28/01/2013 06:18

It's the other way round in our house, and getting worse if anything- DS is 22m and only wants me for bedtime. Dh's approach is to turn on the Telly and enjoy a glass of ! Does DH do bedtime most nights? It may be the familiarity DS craves. I find that if my DH tries to do bedtime the way I do, it all falls apart (and I need to stay out of sight the whole time)

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