9 weeks old- is this the norm?

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DC2 is 9 weeks old. He sleeps most of the day bar a couple of hours awake in the morning, (and is impossible to rouse)- though wakes for feeds- then is awake all evening, getting more and more tired and grizzly but not actually sleeping, or feeding properly. At night he'll settle 10.30ish then feed every 2 (on a bad night) to 4 (on a good night) hours. Thankfully he sleeps well between night feeds.

By this age, DC1 was going down in the evenings at 7pm and waking for a feed at 11ish then one feed in the night.

I know all babies are different- and he's just as lovely!- but I'm racking my brains as to how to 'sort out' his day/evening pattern, if indeed that's possible.

We're trying getting him up at 7.30am ish instead of letting him snooze til 9.30; and starting an evening bath/lights low routine which worked well with dc1. Problem is if me and dp want to eat dinner together we end up bringing him downstairs.

Any thoughts/experiences? What are other babes of similar age up to?

May be try controlled crying? Feeding in the nightly have just become a habit. Although controlled crying isn't for everyone I found it worked well for my lg. x

Good lord had to recheck your post to see if he is 9wo not 9mo! Way too young for cc IMO, and totally like my Ds was at 9 weeks. He's tiny! Don't worry, I just kept Ds with us downstairs and went with the flow, he will sort himself out in a few weeks

Noooooo! Do not do cc at 9 weeks!!

Cc for a newborn ? definately don't do that!

Wouldn't do cc with a 9 week old, don't worry!
But I appreciate all/any advice.

In fact I'm not concerned about feeding at night per se- I'd totally expect night feeds at this age- tho I suspect that if he woke up a bit in the day he'd take more milk and feed a little less at night.

It's more the wakeful grizzly evenings and the fact that he has his wakey time which is the (perhaps non-) issue.

Good to know others are/were like this and he'll probably sort himself out. Perhaps we were just lucky that dd went down for the night from 7 weeks.

The fact that he has his wakey time after dark, I meant to say

What is his feeding times in the day?

At 9weeks I used to pretty mich time dd, so an hour after she last woke I would swaddle her and put her down for a little sleep then she would wake at feed time (7/10/1/4/7) and again have a little play then back.down an hour after she woke.

gold I haven't noted his feed times in the day but it's around every three hours. The thing is, he tends to sleep solidly from say 10.30am-4.30pm, waking for feeds but going straight back to sleep afterwards. Even if I pop him on the playmat and try to keep him awake for a bit, he just nods off! But then in the evening he can be hard to settle at all, even when he's super-tired.

In some ways he's a very easy baby (because he's so snoozy and I can get things done) but even though dd was more demanding in that she was awake more, she did have day/night nailed from a very early age.

He does seem as though he has his days and nights a little mixed up, but I suppose he is still so very new.

Is he BF? BF babies tend to cluster feed in the evenings no matter what happens in the day.

My 9wo was exactly the same until a week ago when she suddenly started sleeping 8 hours from about 11-7. She's still grizzly in the evenings but I feel I can cope with it better knowing I'll get a decent night afterwards.
Just keep doing what you're doing. It will suddenly improve :)

It's totally normal and actually hard-wired into tiny babies to be awake and often unsettled in the evenings. It is their cluster- feeding time. Bedtime gets earlier usyslly as the months pass.

I don't think you need to do anything differently!

Thanks for reassurance! The last couple of nights he's settled more in the evenings and has done at least one 4-5 hr stretch at night. Baby steps...

Ellesabe, 8 hours! Lucky you. Cannot imagine my lo doing that any time soon!

Ps yes he's breastfed.

No I couldn't imagine her doing it either until she did. A couple of nights beforehand she was partying aaaaall night until 5am