so fed up want to run away please help

[MySonIsMyWorld]

Please help before I go mad, have a break down, or run away and never ever come back. My ds will not sleep, he will go to sleep with his daddy but not me, he hits me, he pulls my hair, he head buts me and messes around anything but settle down with me and go to sleep. Ds is 20months. He is still sleeping in our bed which is ok we don?t mind that, dp can settle ds to sleep within 30 minutes on his chest then he rolls him off and leaves him in our bed (trying to transfer him to his cot is a nightmare so we leave him in our bed) and its impossible for me to do it! He can open the bedroom door now so he just bloody walks out. DP is not supportive of me tells me im usless and I carnt do anything because I carnt get him to sleep? dp has walked out about 8 times now for weeks and weeks at a time. I am sick of being hurt by my ds im sick of not being able to make him behave im getting to the point where I don?t want to even bother anymore?.help please u are the only people I have who gives a shit

Your DP is being an arse.

Your DS is being like this with you because you are his main care provider. My DS is 16mo and does it to me too. When I can't cope, my DH takes over, and if my Mum is staying with us, she takes over so we can both have a break. my DS doesn't try this nonsense with my DH or my Mum.

Do you have a Mum/MIL or sister or good friend you can ask to come and help you, if your DP won't?

What about putting a single bed in your DS's room with a stair gate in the doorway?

Also, your DS is not too young to start learning about punishments and time outs. If he head butts you, etc - put him in the cot for a minute or two for a time out, and explain why, even if he screams. Walk out of the room and take a deep breath before you go back to him. Keep doing it if he repeats the behaviour.

You really sound like you need a break, you poor thing. It isn't easy, especially when you don't have support from your DP. Take care xx

i have a mum and sister both of whom are not responsible enough to look after my ds (sounds awful doesnt it)

for the past week ive been sleeping on my ds bedroom floor on a mattress to try and get him in his cot but didnt work it just ended up with me and ds stuck on the floor on a mattress on the floor rather than our bed.

Its so hard isnt it, we do everything for them and then they headut you - i know they dont mean it and most of the time its just sheer frustration or excitment but it still gets you when your shattered!

Ive been trying to explain to him why he carnt headbut, kick, bite blah blah blah when he does and i walk away from him so il do the cot thing at night aswell.....

Thank you :) i'm so beaten down right now its untrue, my dp is an arse you are right i swear to god if my son ever ever tries to turn out like his dad il lock him in his room untill he realises haha