So, obviously dh knew what he was letting himself in for when we did the deed at the required time of the month. We had agonised for about a year before deciding to try for a few months. Our tries were pretty half hearted however...it was all very much led by me. Had I said, two is enough dh would have been happier I think. Anyhoo - am now 31 weeks pg. our kids (3&5) are delighted and dh has been great. No complaints or spoken regrets although initial dismay was clearly apparent. So far so good you'd think. But I know he really doesn't want the disruption and chaos a new baby will bring. He likes a degree of order which was beginning to come back into our lives. He doesn't like it when I'm a bit helpless, and this pg has been tougher than previous. He's a great dad and works hard to provide for us. I work too but we always agreed he would be primary breadwinner. He's now taking on even more work which will make him less available in the months after the birth. I have said I'd prefer less money and more time w him but he says he wants the financial rewards. We can live without the money of course but we will spend anything that comes in! He's also considering working abroad overnight 5 days before my due date even tho our number 2 came at 39 weeks. Overall dh is generally a bit grumpy and distant these past few months and in my heart I know it's probably because he feels he's been backed into a corner. But here we are: what can I do to stay sane w three kids but still protect a marriage that is imperfect but is what I want for my children and I in the future. Thanks for you advice