So who has the answer to sibling harmony?

[XBenedict]

Because right now my 3 little Xbenedicts are not enjoying each other very much

Alcohol.

for you, not them.

It won't make them get on, but you'll care less

But seriously. There isn't one. Siblings fight. Always have, always will. My advice is to let them get on with it and intervene if the blood hits the ceiling.

But its getting me down today, just seems like constant bickering, tale telling. I'm usually reasonably immune to it but today..................

Wait till one leaves home. Worked for me and my brother. We're best of friends now.

Yup. Sometimes it can drive you up the wall.

I don't think there's a solution. Sorry.

I tend to say look if you want to kill each other, go up to your room and do it there. I've had enough.

Or be so mean and unreasonable that it unites them in hatred of me.

mine are united against me

do they need some early bed times? When mine bicker i put them all in time out!

I go out.
Sometimes I impose silence rules, no talking allowed. Then they have to be separated to stop the making faces rubbish. Sigh.

Only have one child.

No, I don't have the answer.
Sadly.
But find chocolate and help.

I"Ve found it!

1. After prolonged bickering over computer time, send all children up to their rooms to tidy them.
2. Listen to the silence as they band together to play rather than tidy up as Evil Mother told them to.

A lock on the inside of your bedroom door. Soundproofing.

I usually give them both a row for bickering - uniting them against me. Going out for a walk really helps too. Or if all else fails I send them to their Gran's house to give me peace.

I bought the book 'calmer. easier, happier parenting' it had some great advice and I am sure it has a section on siblings. at the moment my 3 are not too bad do have. not read that bit in too much detail so can't tell you what it says. the book us definitely worth a read.

sorry for spelling and grammar this stupid phone!

Keep them apart. Most siblings see far, far too much of one another. We all get bored of seeing the same human beings all the time.

Actually what soup said is very true. Three if my boys had bern driving me mental with bickering, windung each other up, telling tales etc etc.

I sent them upstairs to tidy their rooms, they were rathet quiet and i went up to find them happily building lego creations together.

Fresh air (walks/park)
Separate rooms
Put a film on and a few tubs of popcorn to eat

Or I go out!

give them a team building task... it seems to work for middle mangers who huff and puff about each one thinking that they are the best.

Build a den... give each one charge of an aspect of it... eldests usually like to take care of the roof!

littlies do cushions and making home inside it!

if one struggles encourage the others to help.

Or they have to build it only communicating in drawings......
the best drawing gets a prize,
when its built have a jam buttie picnic inside!

"Separate rooms NOW!"

My two are surprisingly good, but every now and again they need a time out.

Also no swearing at each other and no point scoring, ever.

Younger sociable non dyslexic DD2 can have a beautiful line in snide put downs over friends or spelling mistakes.

DD1 is very very tolerant, but when she snaps DD2 either gets thumped (and DD1 is way bigger than her) or something accurately unpleasant said to her.

DD1 is just as sharp witted as DD2 if she choses to be and far thicker skinned. Even though she starts it, it would be DD2 who ends up really upset. Consequently the rule is don't start.

Siblings without Rivalry

I like this book and it's advice. Much as I find it hard to follow sometimes in the heat of battle... .

Be horrid to them so they gang up on Mummy. Works with mine.

At the beginning if the holidays I decided I couldn't stand three weeks of the constant bickering. Told dc, 4 and 6, that from now on for everytime they argue/bicker/fight they will go to bed 5 minutes earlier. It has worked amazingly! Just have to give them a warning and most of the time they instantly stop. Early bedtime is there worst punishment, nothing else bothers them.